rude people

[monkeemayhem]

I am sick to death of people being so self obsessed they forget their manners. Why do people find it so difficult to be courteous and respectful to other human beings? Little things annoy me like when driving, if you wave someone out of a junction they don't smile or wave thanks. or if you hold the door open for someone they walk past you like your employed to do it. or retail assistants who don't even make eye contact with you and chuck your purchase at you.... I could go on!

I always try to be aware of how my actions may affect other people and have been bought up to behave in a polite manner in day to day situations but now i wonder- WHY BOTHER?

next time someone does something nice in this pit of sh1t world- show your appriecation, it doesn't take a minute to say thank you!

[redcrx]

hey monkey i agree totally with your post.

I admit that i try and embaress them, emphasise my please and thank yous to shop staff who are far from friendly (not all are like that i hasten to add). If i hold the door open or move my sons pushchair,to allow the hoards of pedestrians to walk along a busy footpath when they could easily step off of it and let me past, and they dont even acknowledge me i turn around and call 'thank you' after them.

It only takes a second to thank someone, hardly a waste of time.

[redcrx]

oh and dont wonder why you bother, please continue to treat people in a way that you would hope to be treated.

[joko]

i hate it when you hold the door for someone and then 10 people walk through, like, as you say, you are employed to do it. they won't let you go through and not one will say thank you.

[~Wingnut~]

You have summed up exactly how I feel too monkeemayhem. It used to get to me so much ( this and a few other things thrown in for good measure) that it was actually starting to depress me, then it developed into anxiety and it has been a battle ever since to get out of the horrible feelings I experience and struggle to control.
I don't know why people feel they are so important that they don't have to acknowledge a litle bit of kindness, I carry on regardless and on that one time out of ten when someone actually thanks me for holding a door open/ moving out of there way etc. makes me feel good and I hold on to that and not the feelings of small minded idiots who just like to be horrible to people.

Plus I believe in Karma to a certain extent and when the people I know who are horrible get their comupence I will be smiling sweetly to myself :o)

[monkeemayhem]

its not just me! hooray! THANK YOU for replying to my rant, i feel i'm going to lose it with the next person who treats me like crap and then i will become one of them! Their world must be great because so many people are behaving that way now.

[redcrx]

its true, a lot of people do seem to be that way nowadays but who says you have to follow their ways? Go out, be polite to everyone and shame them into maybe using the occasional please or thank you.

wingnut Chin up mate, manners are a wonderful thing to have in life.

[unruliejulie]

How rude is it when shop assistants serve you whilst carrying on their conversation with one another and don't say please or thankyou!!!!!! arghhhhhhhhhhhh, so annoying! I always loudly say thankyou when this happens just to embarass them but i doubt they even notice.

[monkeemayhem]

how rude is this then... I've just been out to get some afternoon choccie (!) from the shop and as I was walking along the pavement an elderly woman on one of those mobility scooters squeezed past me and caught my arm with her many shopping bags- she gave me a filthy look and carried on up the road on her path of destuction. i also stopped on the side of the pavement (we have narrow pavements here)for a grandmother with a pushchair to pass and she didn't say thank you or acknowledge i'd waited for her to pass- even the generation who taught me manners- have no manners anymore....WHATS GOING ON???????

[noxlumos]

My wife got run over at the cashpoint on the pavement by an old chap with one of those disability scooters. He knocked her over then yelled at her to mind where she was going. She was standing on the pavement getting money from the cash machine, completely stationary!!!

All her legs were cut open where he'd hit her and all he could do was yell, absolutely bloody amazing the level of crassness and rudeness people demonstrate.

The one thing I will say though is I think teenagers are by and large more polite than older people say 25-55, I've found a huge number of this age group just seem to think that they can address people however they please and I really hate it.

[unruliejulie]

i find people around my own age are polite. Older ones, forget it. i think they think we owe them something. (not all i might add)As for teenagers, i am the Mum to one and every single one of my sons friends that visit our house are the ultimate example in politeness. Those in the disability cars are lethal. I had to pull my toddler out of the way yesterday because this woman in one refused to move over slightly. I think she would rather have mowed him down than go round him. Disgusting. I once dragged my Mum out of the way just in time in Tescos to avoid one, who merrily went on her way to clip another woman.They should need a licence to drive those, but i think its a case of, i'm disabled so i'm more important than you! GET OUT MY WAY!!!!!!! hope Mrs Nox is fully revcovered from her awful experience Nox.

[bobtheturkey]

nice people get walked over and are generally failures thats the way it is harsh but true

[monkeemayhem]

well Bob, i have been on this site long enough to know you always leave a comment to stir up trouble, i also know you enjoy being the centre of someones anger, so guess what..... thank you for taking the time to read and reply to my post. xMMx

[-GrimReaper-]

People generally get out of my way automatically. Usually they are fleeing away from me with great haste. But I'll catch up with them eventually.

[-GrimReaper-]

You havent thanked ME yet. I think you should, dont you.

[monkeemayhem]

I never thank people who ask.... ;)

[~posy-jo~]

totally agree with you MM. if i hold a door open and they don't say thankyou i make a big point and say loudly "thankyou for letting me hold the door open for you!!" if they turn round and look i add "at least one of us can remember our manners" they're usually too embarrassed to say anything back!!

[AliFlump]

I agree with you all, on the door open thing i always shout Your Welcome!!!

I was walking down the pavement the other day which was 2 persons wide and there were 2 teenage girls coming the other way and they didnt move, i thought im not walking on the road for you so i just walked into her! she looked so shocked i thought so move next time!!!

Also if im crossing the road and then a car comes round the corner they always expect to start running over to get out of their way!! I was walkin the other day and this woman just kept coming at me!! I was there first!!!

rant over, I Thank You

[joko]

i hate it when you are in a pub and people stand with their cigarettes in their fingers and arms down by their sides so the cig is pointing outwards.

the amount of times i have walked past and not touched them - but got a nice cig burn on my arm or a hole in my clothes or just ash all over me

do they not realise they have a burning stick?

they would be super careful if it was an iron, or a joss stick or boiling water yet they happily waft away with a red hot F*cking stick!!!