You've Got To Laugh Haven't You?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.there are different issues here... You've mentioned your girlfriend before, but how you work things out with her is between the two of you. Getting on with mates is a slightly different matter. It may be that they too are under their wives'/gfs' thumbs but are hiding it; or they may be other wise unhappy in private. Don't assume that everyone else is always happier than you. Don't imagine that life involves a conflict between friends and girlfriend; try to sort out time with both, but you can't spend all your time with either of them.
In particular, it's important to be yourself. Being a 'man' is a much more complex business than it used to be, and does not necessarily involve getting your way all the time, or telling people what to do. Plenty of people are quiet and shy, but they're still good people.
jibjab, you remind me of me!!
when i was your age i did pretty much what your saying, happy to go with flow.
it wasnt till i was 26 that i said "b*lls to this, im off".
did it change me...no!!
i am still not confrontational, i have 4 men who work for me and they do as i ASK,not say!
if you have got friends then you ARE one of the lads!!
your girlfriend is with you for you, not your mates!
your sister wont be as independant as you cause she gets what she wants and doesnt have to get it herself!!
but the best advise i can give you ..... if you want respect off others you have got to learn to respect yourself!
I sometimes feel like that when I'm in a crowded bar and people are shouting over me and getting served before me. It's natural to think 'Is it because it's me?' sometimes. You wouldn't be human without some insecurity.
I don't quite get the point of being perceived 'as a man' by your friends. I'd guess you are perhaps the joker in the pack who isn't taken seriously when he wants to be. Perhaps you've outgrown your home/ social environment and need to take a change of direction?