Women and sex drive...

[kryptic]

This question is primarily addressed to women but can equally apply to men.
If you lost your sex drive, how do you deal with it in terms of your relationship? (Obviously, if you are singe then there wont be much of a problem)
Would you simply sweep it under the carpet and pretend that everything is still OK in your relationship or would you seek some sort of medical advice?
If your partner still desired you (sexually) but you were more than happy just to carry on as though everything were ok, would you expect your relationship to survive?
If you lost your sex drive, do you think that your partner would feel rejected and would you really care anyway?...

[Purple_Popple]

This would be a test for the relationship in question really, if a couple really are in love and respect each other then they should be able to discuss issues like this before they get too out of control, having said that sex is only part of a relationship (it matters to some, but not all), there is so much more to being with someone and loving them than sex alone.

[kryptic]

// they should be able to discuss issues like this before they get too out of control,//
But if the woman suddenly decides that they dont want a physical relationship anymore, then what?

[kryptic]

And if the woman refuses to discuss it ? Then what?

[karenmac60]

Then she would have to explain why and if it was a problem for her partner and she was unwilling to speak to someone about it, then she should be prepared for her partner to look elsewhere. I'm not condoning infidelity, but you can't shift the goalposts, refuse to sort the problem out and not expect repercussions.

[Carakeel]

To me, the first thing would be to be totally honest with my partner and yes, I would go to the doctor and seek help. I don’t think problems with someone’s sex drive have to weaken a relationship, as there is far more to a good relationship than having sex (as in intercourse). Cuddling, taking time to be with your special person mentally and physically, being physically very affectionate … all these things are important! The mental bond in a strong relationship can overcome the physical problems that may arise. Over the years my ratter15 and I have been together we have had times when I had been through major surgery and had to refrain from sexual activities for quite a while. It didn’t stop us having lengthy cuddling sessions that were incredibly sensual and very special and made up for the lack of intercourse. To me, the main thing is being totally honest with your partner and if you are with the right person, you will find ways of either fixing the problem or working around it.

[NOX]

I think it would be extremely difficult and somewhat unfair if one partner ( male or female) suddenly ' unilaterally' decided that there was to be no more sex in a relationship. My thoughts are though that if the sexual relationship had been fulfilling for both up to then, then the partner who had gone off sex would want to rekindle that, so some form of discussion and communicaiton would be natural regarding it. I think if someone just says ' yeah I don't want you to ever touch me again' then something prior to that must've have gone terribly awry.

[Purple_Popple]

It all boils down to trust, you have to trust someone you love, you should also be able to talk about anything with your partner, there are two of you in the relationship, but if having discussed the issue and one is not comfortable with sex therapy or counselling then there would have to be compromises reached on both sides of how to deal with it for the future of the partnership before it starts to breakdown.

[Cowtipper]

Quadriplegics can have long and happy relationships without it. Setting expectations between the partners is key. That boils down to communication.

[ELVIS68]

Overheard my wifes mate telling her that her hubby has no sex drive and even though she tries to get him interested he doesn`t want to know.

Shame cos she`s quite fit too ;o)

[seadogg]

Countless thousands of older people have lost it and yet still look forward to a bedtime
cuddle. As to younger partners I guess it would depend on how good the lines of communication have been before it happens, and how selfish people are.

[Mick-Talbot]

Bloody hell, jem....stick to crap jokes, please.

[kryptic]

jem,
why dont you just crawl back under the rock from which you came?

[kryptic]

To all others, thanks for your time to reply guys.

[Mick-Talbot]

I do wonder about this kind of question though.................


If you lost your sex drive, do you think that your partner would feel rejected and would you really care anyway?...


so you are just quizzing Answerbankers then Kryptic?

[Old_Geezer]

I don't believe you shold hoide the issue from your partner, these sort of intimate things are exactly what you should be close enough to discuss. But at the same time I think you should make the effort to please at least some of the time. One can not tell if it is short term, or long term, or permanent at the start. But do discuss it.

[Mick-Talbot]

Or ......................... this is a genuine problem for you , Kryptic?