sexless relationship

[nailit]

could you / do you, live in a sexless relationship?
How important is sex to a relationship?

[ladybirder]

Thing is nailit, are you prepared to spend the rest of your life with her in a sexless marriage because that seems a distinct possibility if she won't discuss it. You sound a nice person, not given to cheating on your wife, but I think that would be a tragedy if you were forced down this path. The reason I said ask her if she's OK with you taking a sexual partner was to make her aware that this is what could happen. I had a friend who was just like your wife and when I asked her if she was OK if he sought sex elsewhere she was extremely put out at the thought - well put out enough to "allow" him to have intercourse just the once in about 4 years. But she admitted she didn't love him anymore and said she stayed for the children. What a sad state of affairs.

[tinkerbell23]

I sympathise nailit. You seem like a lovely person- i think u should try (again) to talk about it and say that you are unhappy.

Granted i am younger and unmarried but my last longterm relationship (4.5y) ended up with no intimacy (i hated him but ddnt have the strength to leave) and i had dreams about exs and it took me under two weeks afyer we finally finished to find an ex!!!!!!! I really feel for you how frustrated you must be. I found it very very difficult to resist when i was still "attached".....
Hope you can work something out- you only get one kick at the ball you need to be happy xxx

[joeluke]

No sex = no relationship

[NoMercy]

And here's Joke.... A man with all the depth of a one-day Acuvue...

[joeluke]

.......and talking of sexless..........

[NoMercy]

Lol !!

[gness]

OH`s first marriage was sexless. Ours wasn`t. Even through a horrible illness.
Sex was good, passionate and fun because our relationship was good,passionate and fun.
Now that he is dead I would be ashamed of myself if I had condemned a passionate man to a celibate existence. If both parties are truly happy with celibacy,great. But for one to deny the needs or wants of the other......wrong.

[boxtops]

JL, many people don't find the sex the only glue that keeps people together. You're wrong there.

[joeluke]

A relationship without sex is basically just a friendship

[gness]

JL. Not sure about that. If OH and I had been unable to have a sexual relationship, as happened at times when he was ill, our relationship would still have been more than friendship.