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Is rasing a 2 and half year old and newborn as hard as people are making out?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.LJDKSA - You really just hit the nail on the head. I'd would love nothing more than to keep this baby and have another wonderful little baby to look forward to. I just wish others would be happy for me.
Others peoples opinions matter to me a bit too much i think.
I'm worried about not coping and becoming a snappy mother to my eldest.
I'm rubbish with no sleep (i know this is the same as for most mothers)
I feel as though i'll be forcing my daughter to grow up faster and guilty as though i'll be replacing her.
I worry that even the small things, such as walking to the shop will be a major struggle with 2 children.
Just a huge struggle all round really.
These reasons all seem so trivial, but i'm quite an anxious person anyway.
Others peoples opinions matter to me a bit too much i think.
I'm worried about not coping and becoming a snappy mother to my eldest.
I'm rubbish with no sleep (i know this is the same as for most mothers)
I feel as though i'll be forcing my daughter to grow up faster and guilty as though i'll be replacing her.
I worry that even the small things, such as walking to the shop will be a major struggle with 2 children.
Just a huge struggle all round really.
These reasons all seem so trivial, but i'm quite an anxious person anyway.
I think it's the anxiety that needs treating rather than the pregnancy, imo. It sounds as though your mum is quite supportive, but if you have told her you have some doubts, she is trying to protect you. My mum would do the same I think. If you told her you were keeping the baby, she would come round to the idea. My mum said similar things to me each time I was pregnant (I have 4) and loves them to bits anyway.
I am not anti-abortion, but in your case, I'm not convinced that's what you really want. Try telling everyone, whose opinions matter to you, that you are definitely going ahead with it. They will be more likely to give you support then, instead of options. This doesn't commit you to anything, but will give you a chance to really think things through yourself.
I am not anti-abortion, but in your case, I'm not convinced that's what you really want. Try telling everyone, whose opinions matter to you, that you are definitely going ahead with it. They will be more likely to give you support then, instead of options. This doesn't commit you to anything, but will give you a chance to really think things through yourself.
I am not anti-abortion. Sometimes it is exactly the right choice to make.
BUT, you have to be sure that it is the right choice for you. It is final and something you will not forget.
It really does sound from your responses as though you are far from sure.
If you possibly can, try to find someone 'neutral' to talk this through with.
I'm sure your Mum wants what she thinks is best for you, but she wouldn't be the one going through with the abortion.
To directly answer question. Yes it is hard, but millions of people managed it without anyone coming to any harm.
Good luck.
BUT, you have to be sure that it is the right choice for you. It is final and something you will not forget.
It really does sound from your responses as though you are far from sure.
If you possibly can, try to find someone 'neutral' to talk this through with.
I'm sure your Mum wants what she thinks is best for you, but she wouldn't be the one going through with the abortion.
To directly answer question. Yes it is hard, but millions of people managed it without anyone coming to any harm.
Good luck.
I have 2 boys 13 months apart and whilst it was physically demanding when they were small, having 2 is definitely easier in the long run as they are good companions for each other. Glad that you have decided to keep it. You didn't sound convinced, and that isn't a decision you can afford to be unsure about and go ahead with.