What else can i do????

[confused]

Hi i have recently put posts about my ex partner assaulting me - he swears he didnt touch me and didnt have knife to me. The thing is im not actually sure what happend! Ive been over and over it thousand times but its still not clear! Ive spoke to IDVA and loads of other people but nobody seems interested! Im currently suffering from anxiety and depression so they are just saying its because of that that im confused but i can read my original statement before court - i dont think this is fair surly if im not clear what happend he can not be still charged!
Any advice would be great about what else i can do!

Thanks

[yogi-bear]

Morning ummmm and Cherry xx

Beautiful day down here on the south coast, and hope it is where you are, my lovelies.:0)

What's going on and who's paul?

[ummmm]

Paul would appear to be the ex she is talking about....and he's just given his version of events. I also think sunsetter is known by the pair of them.

It's the kind of behaviour you'd expect from teenagers. I've had my pushing and shoving days. Luckily I grew out of it and learnt how to deal with disputes in a civilised manner.

[Nosha123]

Wow what a thread... I missed all this last night!!!
Hope all you regulars managed to get a good night sleep!
And hope confused and Paul can start behaving like adults - instead of assaulting each other in a house full of children!! Nice...
No wonder kids grow up these days so screwed up!!!
Prostitution?? £20,000 debts?? Knives? Overdoses? Police reports??
Makes my life seem positively boring... Thankfully i LOVE my life!!!

[cherrychapstick]

looks good up here in scotland although not been outside yet !

[yogi-bear]

Thanks for explaining, ummmm.xx.......seems no amount of advice we give out has worked itself into their feeble brains........probably best we leave them to it......if indeed this is real, it's once again the children you really feel for, in this sad story. :0(

Nosha,

You are so right, my lovely xx

[Nosha123]

Morning Ummm.. & Yogi.. & Cherry.. hope you all slept well. what a glorious day!!!

[yogi-bear]

Slept like a bear in a hammock thanks, Nosha......hope you did too........

Yep, absolutely glorious day......warm sunshine, and not a cloud in the sky...been out already take the youngest two to school and had a chat with the yummy mummy's...lol...

In here till about 10.30am working away, then out all day going to various places including a lunchtime meet in Eastbourne down the road a bit..........i love Eastbourne......the old folk are so funky. :0)

[cherrychapstick]

that was actually my 1st question where the children were ....it is sad to know there are 3 children under the age of 3 mixed up in this and even though they were in thier beds they probably had been woken up with the carry on whoevers side is true xx morning btw ummmm ,yogi ,nosha ...hope you slept well too although you said it twice i think you may not have nosha ?

[ummmm]

Morning :-)

The fact is children are going to see conflict in relationships. It's a fact of life. It's how you deal with it afterwards that's essential (violence aside of course) Mum and Dad have a row, shout at each other, slam doors etc....then they watch Mum and Dad sit down and talk it through and make up. That's not unhealthy. It's teaching them that fall outs happen and have to be dealt with calmly.

No hitting though...!!!

[cherrychapstick]

that's very true ummmm , i asked the question though as she had said he would never hurt the kids .....but they are hurting them more than they think because as you have said they are not sitting down calmly and talking about their problems if they can't do that then i feel they just shouldn't be together x

[Nosha123]

seeing violence - or even just arguments.. then mum going into a mental hospital all hurts the kids. .they are both hurting their kids.. and the children will remember that behaviour for years to come...

some people just shouldnt be together... too volatile - or not mature enough to know how to avoid or resolve issues...
all a very tangled web of confusion!

[ummmm]

I mean normal arguments between normal people....like my arguments which tend to be hilarious.

[joko]

do you suffer with delusions? are you on any medication that may make these vivid?

i used to know a girl who used to male things up for attention...but then she would become convinced what shed said was real.

I didnt realise at first and believed all her lies...until she did it to me a few times, then i realised what she was doing. i stopped having contact with her because she was starting to tell others bizarre lies about me an others and i grew tired of it.
it was small and big things, like things i hadnt said but even so far as 'inventing' an entire day trip out, or just twisting what id said to make it somehow negative - thing was she believed it all...didnt realise she was inventing stuff because shed argue, convinced she was right.

could you be doing the same thing? confusing your dreams and thoughts as genuine occurrences?