what would you do

[helpinghand]

if you find your self doing the same thing over and over again i have been with my husband for eight years now and i am looking forward to being with him for a long time we have two kids and we are living with his mother and grandmother his mom has loupus and his grandmother is 89 this month we helped his grandmother sucure a home we paid for over half of the home $218,000 is what we paid and we buy grocerys ect. she pays for electricity fair trade yes theres the thing his mom thinks she owns it all she gets a ssi check and pays nothing it s a three bedroom house and now our family is growing we need to leave out on our own and his mother has been very mean to me ever sence she found out we will be moving out like she tells me how to correct my kids and talks trash about me to anyone who will listen enculed my own mother.

[skyep]

Emotional blackmail! Get out! What's your husbands view?

[helpinghand]

angel12 i wish it was that easy but some times you have to do things that you normally wouldn't i didn't want to even want to help them in the first place i wanted our own place and now its coming to a head and i feel myself going crazy like i just want to tell her who are you to tell me how to raise my kids but that starts a lot of stress for my hubby and he works 40 hrs a wk and i don't want to start no crap right be fore we move shes one of those people who always has something to top your troubles like if you stub your toe she broke hers i feel she does it for attention and she causes problems starts fights between us and i told him its me or her i feel bad for putting him in that situation what would you do?

[helpinghand]

my husband is tired of her too but thats his mom and she has three other kids but they do not care about her well being like he does he also wants to move out but worrys at the same time for her and her health

[skyep]

Your present situation is intolerable and must be putting a strain on your family unit! Move out, stay on friendly terms, she's not going to like change in the begining. If you do move out, it will probably get worse before it gets better, stick to your guns!

[helpinghand]

thanks sky i hope your right

[skyep]

As red said, you have already gone above and beyond the call of duty ( think your a saint! ) You can still all support her 'and' live your own lives, I think you've earned that much xxx

[helpinghand]

big hearted yes saint no i care for her but how do i live with her while she talks trash about me to friends and family i never heard of her talking trash until she found out about us moving out i am going to school to become a pharmacy tech. and have at least 5 months left hopeful if every thing works out we will be out of there by the end of this year