There is nothing wrong with wanting all or nothing. I was the one who suggested my [previous] boyfriend and i had a break for a couple weeks because after being together three years and was unhappy, i needed to evaluate what i wanted compared to what i was getting. I think depending on peoples individual situation, depends on whether or not a break would be of any help. My boyfriend said (similar to you above) ''but when people have a 'break' they end up splitting up for good' and if this is the case then it would have happened anyway and if you end up realising you can't live without that person and miss them every second - then you've gained something positive - so it works both ways. For us, we got back together, he told me how much he missed me but didn't attempt to make an effort - i think that was the root of the problem in the first place and so giving it a chance i waited... then 2 weeks later i ended it, we weren't working and i was still unhappy. Maybe it softened the blow a little on his part for when we did finally split? You sound like you have already decided on what you want/expect from you relationship...Maybe it's already the end of the road and you want to break anyway? If its worth saving, you'll do all you can to get her back. Good luck whatever you choose.x