What Do You Think

[JinnyJoan]

I am thinking of moving to a place where you pay for living there.  From Covid here - hardly speaks neighbourly and some are moving out - 3 have already done so and another neighbour will be moving out in 2 years time.

I am just wanting to be looked after, ie fed and have a little company.  Don't get me wrong I will be doing my research.  But just your opinion.  Thanks

 

[Redhelen72]

JJ why do you want to move?

[rowanwitch]

If she wasn't funded my mum's dementia care would be much higher than DTC  because she is in London, 

 Sheltered housing doesn't include meals, it's for those who may need occasional access to support and may not have someone on site just a link to a company like careline,  I am in sheltered,  very little difference to normal independent living except if can be easier to access services.   We have a common room where residents organise coffee mornings, bingo eff but these events are all resident run. The council doesn't provide anything. On the plus side many tenants have pets but there are restrictions regarding noise, and hygiene.

Extra care sheltered  will have someone on site usually during office hours, but sometimes weekend's as well, but nights are still often just  covered by a control centre rather than on site. Meals are not normally provided and more likely to be allowed to keep pets in a council scheme, but if it's anything like Birmingham, if you are away for any reason from sheltered housing of either category the animal must be removed from the property until you come back.

Some private schemes have a cafe on site where you can  go for meals, bars and some have other facilities like hairdressers, gyms, and communal gardens. Some allow a small companion animal but not many.

Residential care homes, you just have your own room, usually with an en suite, but meals and 24 hour care will be provided.  You may need to arrange for someone to do your washing and ironing because in establishment services are often poor and things go astray. I don't know what it's like in N I but many councils on mainland prefer to keep people in their homes with carers coming in rather than fund residential care.  You must be able so self fund if it's your preference.

Beyond that you have nursing homes,both for physical nursing care  and mental illness mostly dementias.

Care is expensive and can eat through your funds pretty quickly so by the time you need more care you may have depleted your savings to a point where you lose a lot of choices,  if you are struggling you might want to consider improving your options at home with one of the ready meal providers e.g. Parsley box,  and if you don't already have a cleaner hire one.

 

[Khandro]

lb // I am thinking of hiring a washer upperer for a half hour a day;-)//

Do you not have a dishwashing machine?

[davebro3]

My sister was recently widowed & has moved from her Victorian terrace into a retirement complex with s/c individual flats and a communal lounge. She bought her flat & pays a modest monthly service charge. There is no resident warden/manager.

She seems content enough with the arrangement.

[ladybirder]

No I don't Khandro nor do I want one.  I would have to have my washing machine taken out and replaced with a dishwasher and I don't want to do that.  

I would be paying circa £10/half hour for a Helper who would also have time to do any other little jobs I needed doing.

[davebro3]

//Do you not have a dishwashing machine?//

A dishwasher (machine) is unecessary for a single person unless they do some entertaining & loading/unloading it is probably as arduous as cleaning a few items in the sink. My 2 cents.

Do what you can while you can. Use it or lose it.

[pastafreak]

I'm here thinking..."why on earth would I want a dishwasher?? An extra energy gobbler!"

My current worry is that the stairs here are sometimes a bit much...2 flights up, and my flat is on 2 floors. Not desperate...yet.

[Barsel]

davebro, I've never had a dishwasher in my life, but when my arthritis got really bad last year and I could hardly stand, I decided to buy a tabletop dishwasher and I've never regretted it. It's only half the size of one that stands on the floor, but I load it after every meal and before I go to bed, I turn it on. When I get up, all the dishes are washed and dried and ready to put away. One of my better purchases.

[ladybirder]

Same problem with stairs that Emmie had Pasta.

[pastafreak]

True lb...but I will keep using them for as long as I am able. 

[DTCwordfan]

there's a contribution from the NHs but that's it, it being cheaper to keep her in a home than in a hossie....just under £600 a month, better than nothing and we get zippo from the Council....

[rowanwitch]

The only contribution we pay is £172.80 p.w. from mums pension, the rest for her care in what has turned out to be a pretty good dementia unit in a nursing home is funded partly by the NHS the rest by local government.  They are able to provide hospice level end of life care too so there will be no need to move mum on.  Strangely enough it's a Catholic run establishment but  seems ok with my anti religious mother