A Dilemma- To Tell My Parents Or Not If I Need Surgery

[gordiescotland1]

I have a 1cm blockage in my pancreas discovered by chance at an MRI scan 4 weeks ago. I saw the consultant 3 weeks ago and I am still waiting for him to call me back to tell me what he wants to do about it. Last night while I was at mum and dads for tea they told me that if I have to have surgery to remove it and it is due when they are on holiday they would cancel their cruise. I told them how unhappy I was about that. But in 2001 I had to go into local psych hospital after suffering severe depression and I was in for 7 months, they had a holiday booked to Egypt for a cruise 2 months after I went in and they cancelled losing a lot of money telling me at the time it was because of fear of terrorists it was just after 9/11 so it was plausible. Years later in an argument they cast it up to me saying the real reason was because they could not go and leave me. I have a wide circle of friends in my local church who I know would help, my sister is 90 miles away but she has also offered to come and take time off work. My dads brother my aunt and uncle live 1 mile away and I know they would do what they can. I dont want to tell them if I have to have surgery and ruin their holiday but my sister says I would have to tell them and tell them there is a plan in place to help but I know they would not enjoy their cruise. I guess another alternative is if treatment is not urgent to delay it until January. My parents do a lot for me and despite our disagreements I do love them and they are getting older I want them to enjoy this cruise.

[Lunol]

Lol! That was a hilarious answer sqad. I hope it was tongue in cheek and not serious.

[Sqad]

A-H

\\\\I hardly think that a rational approach to surgery equates with a need for anti-depressant medication! \\\

I have read that several times, but cannot see it 's relevance.....and hence cannot answer, but please don't explain.......

I have known gordie over many years mainly due to his posting and i bet my bottom dollar that gordie will tell his parents.

I was just giving my opinion as to what i would do in gordie's position.

[cupid04]

Don't tell your parents about the operation. Let them go on the holiday they've so been looking forward to. They can visit you when they return.
Hope all goes well.

[andy-hughes]

Sqad - //A-H

\\\\I hardly think that a rational approach to surgery equates with a need for anti-depressant medication! \\\

I have read that several times, but cannot see it 's relevance.....and hence cannot answer, but please don't explain....... //

OK.

// I have known gordie over many years mainly due to his posting and i bet my bottom dollar that gordie will tell his parents.

I was just giving my opinion as to what i would do in gordie's position. //

Fair enough.