If You Know Of A Gp

[phleb]

Who has a father that is in his 80's and is being abused by his daughters and wife including the GP, what would you do? Surely being in a position of trust, GP should not allow that to happen to anyone let alone their own father. The father told me not to say anything and things will calm down. He said if i say anything they will throw him out of his own home. What do i do?

[Elina]

Hi phleb, do you have proof? Is the father of sound mind? Not saying he isn't.

[Sammy48]

What sort of abuse? Have you seen the evidence ? Does he have carers coming in ?

[phleb]

He is sound and told me himself. Its been happening for years and he has had enough due to his age he cannot bear it anymore. He told me they take his pension. He only gets pocket money. Problem is he told me to keep quite. I wish he hadn't said anything because i cannot sit back knowing what i know and not do or say anything. His wife has been arrested due to violence before, but i don't know who it was towards.

[Elina]

You need proof phleb.

[phleb]

They hit him and throw him out at lunch time without food. They swear at him. He told me his daughter and wife were hitting him because he wouldn't give his money to his wife and he tried shouting for help through a window and daughter slammed the window in his face while closing it, hitting him on the face drawing blood.

[phleb]

Problem is i have not solid proof.

[Sammy48]

What about neighbour's, have they witnessed him being shut out ?

[chaptazbru2]

Yes, good idea, maybe you could talk to a neighbour who may have also heard things .....

[Peter Pedant]

if you know of a GP ...


from your script - you dont know - you just have one report from the possible "victim" - I thik you have to wait and collect some sort of credible evidence

[woofgang]

The answer is to make an anonymous report to Social Services. Either the situation is as you say in which case something needs to be done, or the the father is making very damaging allegations, which also needs addressing. There should be details of their anonymous phoneline on your councils website.

[Retrochic]

I was once told by an old man we knew quite well that his daughter was a witch and she was growing poison in his garden ( it was coriander actually). It is quite probable this poor man is suffering from dementia and a quiet word with his daughter or wife will get some indication of his mental state. If you get a sympathetic response from them then he probably does have mental health issues -if they are aggressive with you then its time to call social services.

[Peter Pedant]

agree retrochic

[jno]

do as woofgang suggests. You are not required to personally investigate crimes and gather proof, we have police for that. But I think it would be wise to pass on serious allegations like this.

[Retrochic]

I think phleb needs to take a deep breath and actually listen to what this old man is saying: They will throw him out of his own home How? Why? They take his pension and give him pocket money. How then does he pay his bills if he lives in his own home? They throw him out at lunch time and give him no food -You really believe his wife and daughter go around to this old mans home and 'throw him out' of his own home without food at lunchtime?. You have no idea probably what this mans wife and mother have to deal with. Instead of reporting them to the authorities it may be wise to approach them first. Is this man a neighbor -you could easily verify part of his story by keeping an eye out at lunchtime and seeing if anyone comes around to chuck him out.

[phleb]

The wife and one daughter lives with him

[DTCwordfan]

I would quietly report it and suggest that CCTV is installed.....However, legally how can he be thrown out of his own home - and that makes me wonder if there is dementia involved. The neighbours may indeed be the best folk to approach first to see if they have concerns about either the family or the old boy, or both.

[phleb]

Just spoke to a neighbour and she said it is common knowledge, and she has heard stuff through the walls, but when you try to help he denies it to the authority's. Another neighbour said his wife does beat him, he has gone to this neighbours house numerous times to hide.

[Sammy48]

This definitely needs reporting then, phleb. If he is in his eighties and is being beaten, then he will definately have bruising, having ageing thin skin etc.

Poor man.

[Retrochic]

So 'its common knowledge' this poor man is being abused and no one has done anything about it or spoken to anyone? -I don't believe it.

[marval]

If it is true something needs doing and fast. He should not have to suffer like that.