advice please

[louiselouise]

I recently started a new job in a hotel (8weeks ago) and there is a guy that stays every week. We talk every time we see each other and we have loads in common, I really want to ask him on a date but don't know wether it would be right a member of staff asking a guest out?
HELP???

[Sqad]

No it wouldn't be right.

BUT....if I were you....I would do it.

[Tilly2]

Wouldn't have thought so. Not very professional.

[mrs_overall]

Find out the rules relating to staff fraternising with guests

[louiselouise]

lol thanks sqad

[excelsior-1]

don't ask him while on duty.

if you can find out where he goes socially, be there yourself - under the pretence of socialising, and then 'accidentally' meet him.

[louiselouise]

Im not sure if there is a set of rules to be honest, I know staff have had relationships with other staff and also guests have given staff extravagant gifts

[jno]

no - unprofessional. You should be treating all guests alike. But off-duty is okay, as excelsior says.

[mrs_overall]

"guests have given staff extravagant gifts"

I think there is a name for this

[jno]

guests have given staff extravagant gifts

hmmm... this isn't one of these very short-stay hotels, is it? :-)

[louiselouise]

There lies another problem as he spends his time in the hotel bar or restaurant (whichever I am working in)

[boxtops]

This doesn't sound professional at all - guests shouldn't be giving staff gifts (what special favours do they get in return?!) - when I worked in the hotel industry, we were forbidden from fraternising with the guests.

[louiselouise]

Haha when I say extravagant I dont mean sleezy, we are near a major hospital and familys stay there for months when relatives are in recovery and some staff have recieved mountain bikes, expensive watches, gift cards and so on as thank yous

[Gavmacp]

You could subtly tell him that you are going to this pub later or something like that. Then it is up to him!!

[Celticv11]

If he is interested, when you mention casually when talking to him, that you are going to, cinema, club, bar theatre or whatever, he will mention tagging along, Where are your feminine wiles?

[RATTER15]

ask him if he already has a goblin teas maid in his room, if not, arrange a time!

[louiselouise]

LOL you lot have def made me smile

[cathfromsaron]

i would wait until HE asks YOU ...

[excelsior-1]

that would only work cath - if he had the same feelings

[louiselouise]

cheers for bursting my bubble haha

[ayrtonisgod]

just go for it, you only live once