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i feel so alone
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i just feel like ive got the world on my shoulders.
i know its stupid as i know there are alot more serious problems than mine but i just feel so upset.
ive just broke up with my ex and he wants me back and then gets mad when i say i dont want to go around his house just cause he needs to ease his sexual tension so he can feel better.
my friend who i have always liked just leaves me in the dark the whole time about us and just seems too distant, hes older then me and im probebly just his mates annoying little sister which hurts me.
my parents are arguing constantly and not talking at all which i get the blame for, im basically their communicator but ican tell them to sort it cause once again its my fault.
me and my little sister are caught up in this and im being strong for her and taking her out so she dont have to see the arguing and fighting that i know what is going on.
i try to help them, i arranged a day out for me and my sister for tomorrow but my dad said to book two more tickets so they can come, i know they will be fighting all day but i done it anyway for them to try and stop the fighting but now my mums annoyed at me because she dont want to go. ive only just been paid my wages and im spending it all on my sister so she doesn't have to see the fights. im nearly broke, i have no one to talk to since my 'best friend' says that she has better things to do, no one understands how im feeling. i try and talk to my mum to make her feel better and she goes on how shes so upset, its all my dads fault and i dont understand cause im just a kid, im 18! she then turns on me n doesn't even look at me.
i cant show that im upset in front of them. im always being shouted at or ignored and i cant with my sister because she doesn't know whats going on. my mums hinting of mooving out and i just want to curl up and cry :(
i know its stupid as i know there are alot more serious problems than mine but i just feel so upset.
ive just broke up with my ex and he wants me back and then gets mad when i say i dont want to go around his house just cause he needs to ease his sexual tension so he can feel better.
my friend who i have always liked just leaves me in the dark the whole time about us and just seems too distant, hes older then me and im probebly just his mates annoying little sister which hurts me.
my parents are arguing constantly and not talking at all which i get the blame for, im basically their communicator but ican tell them to sort it cause once again its my fault.
me and my little sister are caught up in this and im being strong for her and taking her out so she dont have to see the arguing and fighting that i know what is going on.
i try to help them, i arranged a day out for me and my sister for tomorrow but my dad said to book two more tickets so they can come, i know they will be fighting all day but i done it anyway for them to try and stop the fighting but now my mums annoyed at me because she dont want to go. ive only just been paid my wages and im spending it all on my sister so she doesn't have to see the fights. im nearly broke, i have no one to talk to since my 'best friend' says that she has better things to do, no one understands how im feeling. i try and talk to my mum to make her feel better and she goes on how shes so upset, its all my dads fault and i dont understand cause im just a kid, im 18! she then turns on me n doesn't even look at me.
i cant show that im upset in front of them. im always being shouted at or ignored and i cant with my sister because she doesn't know whats going on. my mums hinting of mooving out and i just want to curl up and cry :(
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First off we all get these sort of times in life. Be assured whilst there are times you are down, it doesn't stay that way. You'll be on a high again in time.
Sure, whatever is wrong it is important. Don't beat yourself up for feeling low just because someone somewhere is worse off. It is always the case that someone somewhere is worse off. Doesn't take away your right to feel the way you do.
If you have broken up with someone it is usually a good idea to give them a wide berth until the new situation has been accepted. Pulls too many heart strings otherwise.
There are all sorts of friends. The one you mention isn't giving yo what you need at the moment, that's unfortunate but you ought not hold it against him. Unsure what you were looking for from him but maybe you need to look elsewhere ?
Your parent's rows are their problem. Yes it's difficult to cope with, but again don't beat yourself up about it. They're old enough to sort their own relationship problems out. It's not your job. DOn;t let them use you to talk to each other, they are old enough to know that isn't fair. Tell them so in case they missed it.
Good for you for trying to protect your sister from it all, but you can not work miracles. Feel good for what you do achieve not bad for not having a magic solution.
I reckon dad can buy his own tickets to somewhere. Tell him isn't not fair to drag you into his and your mum's disagreements. The more you let them get you involved the more you will be blamed unfairly.
Again don't go overboard. your sister probably knows something is wrong, you can't hide the world from her, but it's nice you minimise the affects. But keep it in perspective, you can't spend everything you have on the issue which is your parent's responsibility anyway.
Note how some of the things you do with good intent is what is making things hard for you. Find a balance that is less depressing and stressful.
If your mum decides to move out, and it is no forgone conclusion that she will, it will be her decision. Don't create extra stress on yourself worrying about what might be and yet may not be after all. Take things as it comes, and again, be aware that nothing ever stays the same. You may be down now but for sure there will be times ahead when you've come through it a better person.
Sure, whatever is wrong it is important. Don't beat yourself up for feeling low just because someone somewhere is worse off. It is always the case that someone somewhere is worse off. Doesn't take away your right to feel the way you do.
If you have broken up with someone it is usually a good idea to give them a wide berth until the new situation has been accepted. Pulls too many heart strings otherwise.
There are all sorts of friends. The one you mention isn't giving yo what you need at the moment, that's unfortunate but you ought not hold it against him. Unsure what you were looking for from him but maybe you need to look elsewhere ?
Your parent's rows are their problem. Yes it's difficult to cope with, but again don't beat yourself up about it. They're old enough to sort their own relationship problems out. It's not your job. DOn;t let them use you to talk to each other, they are old enough to know that isn't fair. Tell them so in case they missed it.
Good for you for trying to protect your sister from it all, but you can not work miracles. Feel good for what you do achieve not bad for not having a magic solution.
I reckon dad can buy his own tickets to somewhere. Tell him isn't not fair to drag you into his and your mum's disagreements. The more you let them get you involved the more you will be blamed unfairly.
Again don't go overboard. your sister probably knows something is wrong, you can't hide the world from her, but it's nice you minimise the affects. But keep it in perspective, you can't spend everything you have on the issue which is your parent's responsibility anyway.
Note how some of the things you do with good intent is what is making things hard for you. Find a balance that is less depressing and stressful.
If your mum decides to move out, and it is no forgone conclusion that she will, it will be her decision. Don't create extra stress on yourself worrying about what might be and yet may not be after all. Take things as it comes, and again, be aware that nothing ever stays the same. You may be down now but for sure there will be times ahead when you've come through it a better person.
they just dont seem to care.
ive tried talking to them but that ended up in threatened to get kicked out.
i have to protect my sister she doesn't act like a ten year old, shes very sensitive and the last thing i want is her getting stressed which easily happens to her.
i dont want my family to break up. alot has resurfaced from when i was 16. terrible things happened and i cant get them out of my head which i know people dont like me as they have the wrong idea of what went on.
i want to run away and take my sis with me. they always argue when we are all together.
my mum says spiteful things like because im trying to take my sister out im trying to make her look like a bad mother.they wont sort it because noone is trying, im the only one whos trying to reason with them which i think is the only string holding things together.
my dad says that soon everything is going to blow up and hes going to loose it at me. i dont want that i have enough problems without all the added stress that it seems to be all my fault as much as i try to keep my family together.
ive tried talking to them but that ended up in threatened to get kicked out.
i have to protect my sister she doesn't act like a ten year old, shes very sensitive and the last thing i want is her getting stressed which easily happens to her.
i dont want my family to break up. alot has resurfaced from when i was 16. terrible things happened and i cant get them out of my head which i know people dont like me as they have the wrong idea of what went on.
i want to run away and take my sis with me. they always argue when we are all together.
my mum says spiteful things like because im trying to take my sister out im trying to make her look like a bad mother.they wont sort it because noone is trying, im the only one whos trying to reason with them which i think is the only string holding things together.
my dad says that soon everything is going to blow up and hes going to loose it at me. i dont want that i have enough problems without all the added stress that it seems to be all my fault as much as i try to keep my family together.
I am so sorry to hear about your problems. I know you may think you are too old to call them, but call Childline. They will listen to you& help you through your problems. They won't judge you and won't turn up at your house or anything like that. But I do think you need someone to speak to and it will help you emotionally. Good luck sweetie. ; )
I've just had a quick look at Childline.org.uk they probably can answer your call through the night but they do struggle to provide enough people to answer the call (counsellrs) right through the night. You could always copy and paste your messages here to them as they also answer emails. Alternately they
have message boards and an instant chat facility etc, so other methods of communication may be better. Please rest assured if you are a child or a young person they will listen to you. Good luck.
have message boards and an instant chat facility etc, so other methods of communication may be better. Please rest assured if you are a child or a young person they will listen to you. Good luck.
It's not your job to keep the family together. Naturally you'd want them to be together but presumably not at the cost of continuous arguments. There are worse things than a disfunctional family splitting up, but it may not come to that anyway. Instead of concentrating on the things you want but have no influence over (which will just get you down) try to expand any energy into coping with how things are, and how to make them best they can be for you (and your sister). Yes, the advice to seek counselling somewhere elsewhere from here, was a good one. Best of luck with Childline.
You are legally an adult. Perhaps it's time to also be an adult emotionally. There is only so much responsibility you can have towards your parents. It might be better to be not living with them. You do not have to allow others to shout at you. Walk away from shouters, parents or whoever they are. Book an appointment to speak with counsellors, perhaps via your GP, perhaps via your college, to advise you on how to get help to move away from an abusive home.
Your mother is also a free adult and if she were to move out not only is it her choice, but it might ease tension at home.
BTW I have to agree with Dotty that your earlier reference to a teaching course sounds a bit dodgy - you can't join a UK teaching course at the age of 16. So being clear and truthful about stuff helps your case.
Your mother is also a free adult and if she were to move out not only is it her choice, but it might ease tension at home.
BTW I have to agree with Dotty that your earlier reference to a teaching course sounds a bit dodgy - you can't join a UK teaching course at the age of 16. So being clear and truthful about stuff helps your case.
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