Making up at Christmas dilemma

[Squitty]

I fell out with someone a while age and they have (graciously I must add) invited me over during Xmas. Thing is I still feel aggreived and there have been 364 other days to make up. Am I being too stubborn?

[sara3]

tell them you're busy that day, but arrange another day.. and make sure you go!

it takes a big person to offer an olive branch..

[zzxxee]

yes i agree with sara3 an olive branch approach is the best way

[carmalee]

you've also had 364 days to make up.

[jenty]

lifes to short to hold a grudge..how would you feel if that person died before you had a chance to make peace with them...go and have a good time...

[sweetpea...!]

probably - but it depends why you fell out in the first place. If they nicked your last Rolo I'd let them off but if they ran your cat over with their lawnmower.....

[Sachs]

Hi Squitty,
You know, it's not always black & white. Things are said that can be very hurtful. Sometimes things happen for a reason, may be you saw this person in another light?
I know it's Christmas & we should forgive & forget, but sometimes we can't. Sadly, I'm in the same predicament!

[Squitty]

So I'm outnumbered eh? - I kew that was going to happen!

[sqad617]

Not a matter of SHOULD you go, it is a simple matter of do you WANT to go? Only you can answer that.

[joggerjayne]

Go !



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[Squitty]

Thanks sqad617 - No - I dont WANT to go - but this affects other members of my family too & it will create Xmas discomfort which I could do without. Like I said there were 364 other days. I am also too blame for the original falling out but as Sachs answer I cant easily get over how entrenched I feel.
I like sara3's answer but maybe because it defers things.

[Sachs]

Your problem & the ripple effect it makes is exactly the problem I am facing this Christmas. No one is perfect, we all make mistakes. I made a decision & have to go with that & all it entails xxx

[sqad617]

OK squitty, then you have to go....sorry.

[Eve]

If you do go, is is likely to be peaceful or could there be trouble as that could have a bearing on things if there are other family around.

[Squitty]

Jenna - the only person who would create a problem is me sadly - so no there wont be any problems - I just cant get over how I feel ( ie stubborn). I am annoyed because I feel Xmas is being used to cajole me.

[Squitty]

Just to add - the other person is my son - he lives 2 streets away and exactly 12 days ago chose to completely ignore my Birthday.

[sqad617]

YOUR SON!!!!! don't go squitty, that spells trouble. You don't want to go, your son ignores you........c'mon squitty that is a recipe for disaster.

[Sachs]

Could it be he was strapped for cash Squitty?

[Velvetee]

Perhaps they didn't feel there was another appropriate time in the year to make the first move. Maybe in their mind, Christmas is the season for making amends and rekindling friendships.

As the old cliche goes, life is too short. Go there for Christmas, try to enjoy yourself and then at a later date meet up with person so you can amicably discuss the falling out, so you can both put things to bed, for good.

[Squitty]

Sorry Sachs no he isnt strapped for cash and I feel a card would have done - in my tiny mind it was a continuation of our non speaking terms.