What Do You Think On This One?

[jd_1984]

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/real-life-stories/husbands-affair-saved-marriage-mum-2063326

[emmie]

not a lot to be honest, except to say that if he does it again, not to say that he will, will she be so forgiving.

[B00]

Entirely possible.

You do take marriage for granted, hard not to after time. Something like this can make you realise what things that were important to you both as a couple, you let slip.

Guess it either makes or breaks a marriage, in this case it made it- good on them :-)

[Cloverjo]

Ugh, why do people tell newspapers stuff like this?
How did he "learn the hard way"? He got caught, and didn't like it.

[aelmpvw]

just told the wife that if i have an affair it will make our marriage stronger ... her reply would be removed from this thread ...

[jd_1984]

I do agree "why tell the papers?"
I assume 3 young children, mortgage, bills etc..... It will be financial gain.
Funnily enough, they are from my home town. A very small town where it is already impossible to keep your business quiet!

[Brenden]

Good for them, even a dog is entitled to one bite before being put down - no pun intended - I believe they will have a happy life together, and if he did stray again. she seems the intelligent type of woman that will say "that's it, over". There are plenty of women who only want affairs with married men, no responsiblities - washing dirty socks etc - presents, their own space, they never give the wives or children a second thought, and the men (bless them) their egos go through the roof - they can still pull a bird. little realising she has pulled him.

[pixie373]

JD, I'm a little worried at the question, as i think you're due to get married soon? Lol. It is possible if it's brought issues up and they have been successfully resolved, i think. But it may well be thrown in his face in the future.

[Brenden]

No pixie, once you have resolved your differences and decided to continue with the marriage - because you love each other - the affair must never be thrown in his face during an argument - the wife made her choice to forgive him, end of story.

[Dee Sa]

at least they did not go on Jeremy Kyle that's about all I can say in their favour. Odds on he will do it again.

[Sqad]

100% with Brenden and BOO.

Not popular with the majority of AB women who's advice would be...."dump him."

Of course a marriage can survive an affair........by either party.

[missnemesis]

If that was my OH he'd be bl00dy lucky to have his gonads saved let alone his marriage.

I'd be surprised if he doesn't do it again.

[Sqad]

\\\If that was my OH he'd be bl00dy lucky to have his gonads saved let alone his marriage. \\\

missnemesis....that is only if you found him out..........!!!!

[missnemesis]

Lol sqad, true :)

[cazzz1975]

my concern would be that when the dust settles and the marriage falls back into a similar rut over time there is a likelihood that another affair would start again?

if yes, is that really a good marriage?

[LazyGun]

I think that guy could probably sell snow to eskimos. Fancy being able to have an affair, then be able to say I do not regret having the affair - and having your wife publically endorse you !

Just wait - in a few months he will on chat shows positively endorsing the virtues of extra-marital affairs in making marriages stronger :) I can see a Jeremy Kyle show in this couples future....

Still, if it all ends well and the family bonds are reinforced- good for them, I guess...

[ummmm]

I think each to their own.

[rowanwitch]

I would forgive a fling but not a relationship where there was significant emotional commitment. A body can be washed clean but ?I wouldn't want to fight against the exciting memories my OH would have... Its those half smiles when you catch them daydreaming that hurt

[Sqad]

rowan....naaah!...you speak quite naturally from a woman'e point of view....a husband can have an emotional affair, lives every day with thoughts of exciting sex, unlike the hum drum sex that he has with his wife, can't wait to meet his mistress and then THAT dwindles also and if caught by his wife and finishes the affair...that is THAT.

\\\ Its those half smiles when you catch them daydreaming that hurt\\

They are not "day dreaming" about the last affair, they are "day dreaming" about the next one.

[missnemesis]

I feel sorry for their children. What kind of an example is they setting their daughters?

He, like it or not, is going to be their role model when it comes to the men they choose to share their lives with. Will he be happy in 10/15/20 years time when their hearts have been broken by the same kind of philandering arseholery?

She is showing them that being needy, desperate and willing to put up with any old broccoli from your man is how you stay married. Poor kids.

[andy-hughes]

I believe that couples reach accomodations that suit them both - and that's as it should be, because they are the ones who live with those arrangements.

Quite why they feel the need to tell a national newspaper, and more interestingly, why this is 'news' is another issue.

I think it is a printed version of garden fence gossip - but it sells papers.

At least its not as creepy as couples saying how happy they are now they are celebate - TMI!!!