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my son has just suddenly decided he wants to make contqct with his biological father, he is 15. His father was abbusive to him and my wife! (im his stepdad). My wife does not eant him to get in contact with him until he is over 16 and his gcse's are finished, he says its his life and we cant stop him if he wants to do it now! can we?? If he goes now he could loose focus on his exams and he is a very bright boy!! help please!!! thanks.

banjosy Thurs 15/05/08 12:12

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nvqwomen
Fri 16/05/08
21:49

HI there,
Ive had a simular situation. But my son was 18 at the time. His father was abusive and was under mental health. It broke my heart, but my advice to you is to let him go and see his father. A lot of the time, people dont change. Your son will soon see the warning signs and will be back where he belongs. Your son may just want to ease his curiousity and if he does not go, it may still make his GCSE's suffer. Just explain to him that you will be there and that he has your blessings. I understand fully how hurtful this can be. Just dont say I told you so when he does come back. He will need to feel that he can come back and admit he made the wrong decision. It took my son 8 months to realise. He found it hard to admit that he made the wrong choice because he was afraid I would say I told you so. But now he has no contact what so ever. Any of your adult family members or yourself should be able to be with him at the time if you feel he may still be abusive.Wish you luck.

banjosy
Sat 17/05/08
10:06

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Hi, thanks so much for the advise, it does make sense!! Just fought so hard to keep them apart for his own safety to then be crushed when he wants to go back. I thank you again!!

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