Son's girlfriend is rude

[kayd1961]

Our son's girlfriend is rude and always making fun of him or something at our house. We can hardly stand this anymore. She makes fun of him in a laughing way... makes fun of his growing baldness or how he has done something. She is make fun of pictures that she is looking at that are from the past. I just think this is very disrespectful when they come to visit. I want to say something but so far have not. Don't want to make either of them mad but especially do not want to make him mad at us or cause him to stay away from visiting us. It is very hard to listen to someone criticize your son or family. We have certainly never done this to her. I want to speak with him about it and need advice as what to say.

[MarkRae]

Welcome to AnswerBank - an interesting first post!

Have you considered putting something in her tea...?

[Smowball]

How old are your son and the gf?

Mark - drastic but I like it : )

[Brinjal]

Hard to ignore but if he doesnt say anything then you shouldnt either. Hopefully the relationship wont last too long.

[tenrec]

He's a grown up let them get on with it.

[coccinelle]

Quite honestly making fun of someone in a laughing way isn't as bad as critisizing them in a hurtful way. The fact she laughs about it might mean that it doesn't bother her. I too have that kind of humour of making jokes of things especially if I'm surrounded by people who are too serious. i often laugh at old photos due to hairstyles, clothes etc a lot of people do. If it bothered your son he'd say something.

[boxtops]

Do you think she's embarrassed in your company so makes light of things? How old is she?

[Tilly2]

If he's going bald he obviously isn't a child anymore, so he's old enough to fend for himself, I would say.
If he's happy with her, why don't you just join in the laughter. Take no notice of her slights, laugh them off.

[ummmm]

I'm always taking the pee out of my OH :-)

[daffy654]

Maybe it's time for you to cut the apron strings. Your son obviously isn't offended by his girlfriend's teasing so you should keep out of it.

[sinderella]

Hi new person.welcome to answerbank.you are allowed to comment on our comments ya know.he is a big boy now.let him know how you feel and ask his opinion on it.if he isnt happy he will dump her.p.s. tell him its not a bald spot its a solar panel for a sex machine!

[kayd1961]

Our son is 27 and gf is 26. Maybe we should make fun of her weight when she mentions his hair. She has alot of faults herself but we do not point them out. And if I was viewing pictures of her family from years ago I don't think I would have a comment for every picture. Sometimes people just need to shut up. I still feel it is rude behavior when you are a guest in someones home.

[Barmaid]

It could well be just a sign that they are totally relaxed in each other's company. My OH takes the micky out of me all the time - whether we are here or at my parents'. My mother normally joins in with him.

I regularly say things to my OH like "oi baldy". I don't mean anything by it at all, it's just part of being in a relationship.

[China Doll]

If the man hostage and I had to stop making fun of each other then a large part of our daily conversation would vanish!

[cathfromsaron]

offending you in your own home is unacceptable, but what dos your son think?

i would ask her to bring her own pics from childhood over for you to mock ...

[Traci66]

Maybe she doesn't see it as being rude, she might think she is actually being funny.

[kayd1961]

Funny how everyone thinks its okay for her to make fun of him but no one said anything about me making fun of her being overweight. Since its okay to make fun of his receding hairline I guess it okay for me to make fun of her fat butt.

[THEMOTLEY1]

Just stick a wide load notice on it, and say nowt!

[baza]

^^^^ go for it,

[woofgang]

only if you want to stop seeing your son.....
if she makes rude joking comments about you to you then you are allowed to riposte, as it is if I were you, I would stay out of getting between your son and his current Gf unless, as I said, you want your son to stop visiting. Baseline, his life, his choice.

[ummmm]

I think you might have more of an issue with your sons receding hairline than he does.