Son's girlfriend is rude

[kayd1961]

Our son's girlfriend is rude and always making fun of him or something at our house. We can hardly stand this anymore. She makes fun of him in a laughing way... makes fun of his growing baldness or how he has done something. She is make fun of pictures that she is looking at that are from the past. I just think this is very disrespectful when they come to visit. I want to say something but so far have not. Don't want to make either of them mad but especially do not want to make him mad at us or cause him to stay away from visiting us. It is very hard to listen to someone criticize your son or family. We have certainly never done this to her. I want to speak with him about it and need advice as what to say.

[CatGirl4]

Id be tempted to ask her if she ever says anything nice about him,or cn't she help it? i like the suggestion of beating her repeatedly lol.

[joko]

most people laugh a bit at old photos - the hair the clothes etc, some are funny.

a bit of gentle ribbing is ok, and for some - as you have read here - is just banter between couples and is ok because they are so close.. 'in jokes' etc
however , how does your son react? embarassed laugh? grits teeth? sighs? rolls eyes? etc etc

if he laughs back properly maybe its just banter and he does it to her at home...?

do her words come with a sneer or vicious streak, or is it just for comedy value? some people just have a nasty streak, and dont know when to stop

[andy-hughes]

I think you are maybe trying to be defensive on your son's behalf, which he obviously doesn't need, and may not actually want.

Two of my three sons-in-law have full heads of hair and tease me mercilessly about my being folically challenegd, which is fine, it's the relationship we have, no-one takes offence.

If your son was hurt by this girl's comments, it's for them to sort out - do not get in between them on this, they will band together and you will miss out.

Not everyone behaves in the ways we would like, or the ways we behave ourselves, you just have to bite the bullet and get used to it. i am sure this girl does not mean any disrespect - but if it really bothers you, ask your son to have a word with her about dialling it down a little.

Do not confront her, or be personal towards her, you will cause a rift, that that is no good for anyone.

[slinky.kate]

has anything changed since you mentioned this in june or is it just as bad ????