Different parenting styles

[DallasV]

My husband has been living with my 3 children and me for 9 mths now. My 4 year old is rebellious to begin with and 100 times worse when it comes to listening to him. We have different parenting styles, how do you know which way is the most effective? And secondly, for such a young age, she is still set on her father and I being together. How do I let her know this will not be happening?

[joeluke]

'My 4 year old is rebellious to begin with and 100 times worse when it comes to listening to him'

This needs nipping in the bud right now as it will only get worse if you let it continue

One word - discipline

[Smowball]

V difficult. My hubby isnt my sons father and has been with us since son was about the same age as yours. We are very different in our parenting styles too, my hubby is much much stricter than me. Its all about trying to find a compromise but that isnt always possible.

[NOX]

When I met my ex she had a son and I had children, so we were a both ways step family. For us it worked to have only one rule base, don't do anything you wouldn't like doing to you and always remember if you do then there will be consequences you might not like. Her idea was that this teaches cause and effect and responsibility for their own actions which to my absolute surprise turned out to be right. After my kids ( her son was already very well behaved) thought it was going to be a free for all it began to materialise until 12 months into our relationship all of the kids were happy confident and most importantly nice people.Honesty is vital with kids, tell your daughter honestly that this will never happen, don't soften it, and she will accept it all the quicker.