Tell Tale Signs?

[tatonic]

I seem to have the awful habit of falling head over heels for men who never feel the same way. When
I look back ,my denial disgraceful. It would be really nice to know, while entering a new relationship the unspoken gestures that are unmistakable signs of genuine affection for another. Surely you've been privey to one or two you would not mind sharing?

[cazzz1975]

maybe you are coming on a little strong when you fall head over heels thus scaring them off ?

[joko]

i suppose i have done that too...and the problem is it shows...just being too gushing an interested and wanting to be with them all the time etc...if they dont yet feel that way for you, i guess it could seem a bit much...and unfortuanatelyy put them off

[Mcvj]

Hey Joko,

Just started seeing a new guy after a pretty rubbish breakup. It's pretty casual at the moment because I've told him I don't want to rush things - that seems to have done a trick because he contacts me every day!

I think men like it when you're a little unavailable, a bit aloof. I know that it can be hard though, when someone shows you some attention but I think that in the long run it pays off because the right guy keeps trying ;) xxx

[4getmenot]

agree they always want they cant have. I had a man chase me for about 4 years, I now live with him

[tatonic]

Yes, I know my mistakes. But not the question I was asking. What are your experiences, about when you knew the person you were with loved you? When men are really in love with a girl how do they act? What are the tell tale signs?

[woofgang]

How do you know when anyone likes you? Men aren't a separate species (I know, smelly socks, strange food etcet but really they aren't) Well its the same. They will enjoy your company, you laugh together. talk about stuff...you won't need telltale signs whatever they are, you will really know the person and how they react to things, you will know they love you because you know them.

[TTG]

"When men are really in love with a girl how do they act? What are the tell tale signs? "

Personally I find myself thinking about the lady when she is not around. No matter where I am or what I doing, she will just "pop into my head" so to speak. Sorry, this is not very helpful but just something I would share.

[LoftyLottie]

Well Mr LL did his best to avoid me, let me know he wasn't interested, and I did the same with him. We both saw other people. You would have thought we really disliked each other, but somehow we kept ending up together after parties etc. We were actually both besotted with each other but frightened of showing it. Anyway 40 years on, we have been married for 38!!