Should I be concerned by my partners behaviour?
Theres a girl at work who I'd be suprised if he'd look twice at but he's recently been joking a lot with her about vibrators and has even just bought her one for her birthday. Maybe I'm being a little over sensitive as I'm pregnant but I'm not sure going so far as to buy her a vibrator is still just joking. Still he's made no attempt to hide it all from me.
PuffyFish Thurs 25/09/08 21:38
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pregnant or not ,you have a right to be worried, this does not sound like normal behaviour to me ,perhaps you should have a little talk with him and explain how you feel
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Well! I can see why you're upset! It was a VERY inappropriate thing for him to do! Let him know it has upset you, and you think it's out of order, even if nothing is going on between them, and he was just "joking" with her.
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yes! hes being a complete d!ck - to you and this other girl. there's the insensitivity and cheek of him telling you about it (he must know its not really what you want to hear given the fact that you are female and hormonal) and the sheer inappropriateness of the choice of gift for a work colleague. i hope she makes a complaint about him sexually harrassing her or something - what a tw@t! he needs to be slapped urgently by the both of you...
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No your not being over sensitive!
Buying a vibrator for somebody is pretty full on and I would never buy another woman one if I was in a relationship (though would be happy to buy my partner one :0))
I think you have every right to tell him that it was out of order
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Being honest I can see why your really concerned about this & if I was you i'd be questioning if this type of gift is really appropriate for just a friend. Some men out there can be really stupid and he may not actually think theres anything in it. Ask him! However I must point out that he did tell you. It shows he has nothing to hide from you & honesty is important in a relationship. I do though think the gift is very innapropriate & I think you should ask him how he'd feel if you was buying your guy mates sex toys!
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to joke with an opposite-sex colleague about vibes is probably pretty normal office banter, but to actually go out and buy her one is a bit insensitive towards you and probably taking a joke a bit too far with her.
I'm sure nothing's going on but it's easy when you're pregnant to blow things up out of proportion. At least he's being open about it I supose.
However, he should stop this, and stop it now. Insist on it,
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I am sorry but your partner strikes me as insensitive or stupid (probably both).
You really should put a stop to this flirtation NOW before it goes any further.
Men are very bad at seeing just what signals they give to Women,and are equally as bad at realising just when they have hurt someone (you).
You have to tell him, no matter how difficult you may find it,just how you feel about this,and how much (obviously) it worries you.
It doesn't make any difference that he hasn't hid it from you,it's not appropriate in a married man,and could lead to extreme difficulties at work.
You certainly don't need something like this when you are pregnant!
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i think your partner is being disrespectful in telling you that he did this, honest but in fact his honesty is disrespectful............because his motive, i think is questionable.................. ie i wonder why he needed to tell you.
i wonder if this actually manifests itself in other ways within your relationship...................
and at the end of the day, it doesnt matter if you think you are being unreasonable - you feel his actions are wrong and that is enough...................... go with that feeling and any others this issue engenders .....................
you are worth more than this
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Since he has bought his colleague a vibrator you can buy me a pressy......? I'll have some action men.
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