Getting back together

[carliex]

Me and my ex have a 4 year old together, we split up when baby was 8 months old as things got on top of us such as him losing his job them becoming depressed and bill ect this really ruined our relationship. We got back together a year later but I was too scared to make it work and I ended it after 3 months and really hurt him! the thing is I still love him and will always love him. I'm with someone eles and I can't help but watch how different he is with my child and I feel guilty taking my baby's daddy away and replacing him with someone who try's but its still not the same. I also think about the future and more children but I actually couldn't bring myself to have another child with anyone but my ex. I would feel like its not as special and I would be replacing our memory's of us when I was pregnant but being with him and having another child would just add to our memory's. I don't think I will ever be able to move on! I also know he is with someone although he try's hard to hide it! My question is do I tell him how I feel? Or am i being unfair and just going to mess head up?

[karenmac60]

I don't know about telling him, but is it really fair on your new partner when you are in love with someone else and constantly comparing. Maybe the best thing you could do is be on your own for a while. Sort your head out and concentrate on your child. It'll do you more good in the long run.

[China Doll]

I tend to agree with Karen, doesn't sound very fair on current partner at all.

I've not known may relationships where people have gotten back together last but that's just personal experience.

[pizza]

I personally think we split because a relationships not right and if you go back it can never be the same.
This brings problems of each own i.e what each other has been up to during the split.
I'm not sure how old you are but looking at the memories you have of being with your ex when you were pregnant is never going to let you move on.
As said before you have not being fair to your current partner when you're allowing your past cloud your present!! nor are you being fair to your child letting him/her get close to someone which really for their sake you should be honest with.
I totally agree with Karen you need to spend time on your own, be honest to yourself and your current partner.
Good Luck.