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Taking Life Of Your Father
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Father suffers mental,physical trauma by bad decisions made by daughter about his health treatment, father completely ignorant about it begs daughter to save him crying, daughter completely ignores & father dies.what punishment should daughter get?
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What a catalogue of errors. My commiseratio
19:06 Mon 31st May 2021
Father was a cardiac patient with history of pleural effusion of lungs. He took covid vaccine 2nd dose,after 2 days he got high fever nd breathing issues,issues continued till 2 more days,he consulted physician who told to get xray after seeing xray doc said lung infection, having covid,father was shocked as he had no symptoms of covid , high fever nd high sugar were bcoz of infection,doc told to get rapid antigen test to be done, he did, there at hospital his O2 level went to 60 but daughter told him to come home , after an hour he insists to take to hospital as he is unable to breathe, so daughter nd son took to a hospital, the doc refused to admit saying that infection is more, he is in critical state he needs icu nd that is unavailable, when daughter insists doc asks to give in writing that if something happens docs will not be responsible.
Here started mistakes of daughter: she did not givein writing, also the pulmonogist the doc consulted was one who had treated father earlier so case history was known , father asked daughter to tell docs that the pulmonogist has treated him before but daughter forgets to tell this point to docs -2nd mistake, vaccine 2nd dose complete this point she doesn't remember telling docs-3rd mistake,she panicked but did not tell father or brother or mother at home all these points-4th mistake, father then requested pro officer he asked nurse to give him O2 nd antibiotic but not admit, night daughter tried contacting other hospital for icu but no one gave +ve reply , some said they have O2 bed available but not icu: daughter insists for icu only-5th mistake, she refused covid bed in a big hospital for want of icu only : didn't consulted father or family-6th mistake, morning 1 hospital asked to get CT scan done nd come but daughter refused as CT scan she thought might worsen situation but again didn't consult father nd family-7th mistake, father worked for pharma company nd the night hospital he had earlier worked with for years, but after retirement he was not in touch if they would have waited in morning then any department doc father could have spoken to nd every thing would be ok but she went for an O2 bed at a govt hospital in morning without consulting anyone-8th mistake, got him admitted with description of covid +ve-9th mistake,he was admitted to covid ward- shefogot to give him the brought food and phone and went home after admitting him,later that evening father called from someone else phone to get the phone
Then he told his daughter tht staff did not give him any water since morning, brother bought a 1 litre water bottle and gave to father,next morning they went to give water and fruit at 11 o clock ,as father insisted to get test done for mom also she got er test done:the test result for mom was told within 30 min she was +ve too( here dad's test was not yet ourt nd mom too had taken vaccine 1 week back),didn't ask him anything at night before regarding dinner or treatment or about his health-10th mistake, dad panicked for mom, around noon doc called nd asked them to arrange icu she repeated same process of calling hospital only for icu ,none gave +ve reply nd were telling to get the patient there ,daughter refused -11th mistake, then in evening doc called nd told icu arranged, daughter didn't ask father how he was feeling-12th mistake , mom was put in isolation, bro was working from home so hd to work but daughter was free, she not even once asked dad about health or if he wanted anything from home, didn't arrange for meals ,didn't bothered to ask anything at all, morning dad told daughter he was not taken care of by staff ,no water given, no staff came near him (due to covid as mentioned by daughter also test result was +ve for earlier test done) she ignored it nd told doc that he was not giving treatment doc got irritated-13th mistake, in evening father called her crying and begging her to save him ,get his treated, the staff would not listen to him
Here started mistakes of daughter: she did not givein writing, also the pulmonogist the doc consulted was one who had treated father earlier so case history was known , father asked daughter to tell docs that the pulmonogist has treated him before but daughter forgets to tell this point to docs -2nd mistake, vaccine 2nd dose complete this point she doesn't remember telling docs-3rd mistake,she panicked but did not tell father or brother or mother at home all these points-4th mistake, father then requested pro officer he asked nurse to give him O2 nd antibiotic but not admit, night daughter tried contacting other hospital for icu but no one gave +ve reply , some said they have O2 bed available but not icu: daughter insists for icu only-5th mistake, she refused covid bed in a big hospital for want of icu only : didn't consulted father or family-6th mistake, morning 1 hospital asked to get CT scan done nd come but daughter refused as CT scan she thought might worsen situation but again didn't consult father nd family-7th mistake, father worked for pharma company nd the night hospital he had earlier worked with for years, but after retirement he was not in touch if they would have waited in morning then any department doc father could have spoken to nd every thing would be ok but she went for an O2 bed at a govt hospital in morning without consulting anyone-8th mistake, got him admitted with description of covid +ve-9th mistake,he was admitted to covid ward- shefogot to give him the brought food and phone and went home after admitting him,later that evening father called from someone else phone to get the phone
Then he told his daughter tht staff did not give him any water since morning, brother bought a 1 litre water bottle and gave to father,next morning they went to give water and fruit at 11 o clock ,as father insisted to get test done for mom also she got er test done:the test result for mom was told within 30 min she was +ve too( here dad's test was not yet ourt nd mom too had taken vaccine 1 week back),didn't ask him anything at night before regarding dinner or treatment or about his health-10th mistake, dad panicked for mom, around noon doc called nd asked them to arrange icu she repeated same process of calling hospital only for icu ,none gave +ve reply nd were telling to get the patient there ,daughter refused -11th mistake, then in evening doc called nd told icu arranged, daughter didn't ask father how he was feeling-12th mistake , mom was put in isolation, bro was working from home so hd to work but daughter was free, she not even once asked dad about health or if he wanted anything from home, didn't arrange for meals ,didn't bothered to ask anything at all, morning dad told daughter he was not taken care of by staff ,no water given, no staff came near him (due to covid as mentioned by daughter also test result was +ve for earlier test done) she ignored it nd told doc that he was not giving treatment doc got irritated-13th mistake, in evening father called her crying and begging her to save him ,get his treated, the staff would not listen to him
No matter how much he called them no body came, they would not give water, would not take him to toilet, took no personal care, he begged daughter to take him to a private hospital where atleast someone would listen to him, someone would treat him but daughter told dad that no beds available nd he should wait ( without any efforts to call someone asking for private hospital ,completely ignores father's desperate cries for help )( also, a relative had told daughter that he took an appointment for dad at a date which was the same when dad called for help, she completely forgot it , didn't tell dad either before so father had no idea on it else the other doc knew dad well he would have definitely helped)-14th mistake, again she didn't call him at night to enquire his health or give him any mental support-15th mistake, next morning mom told she was calling dad but he was not picking up, daughter went to hospital with bro, bro got till the icu ward while daughter waited outside,bro said that ward boy told dad is resting nd so not picking up phone, they came back home-16th mistake (didn't insists on checking dad or going to doc: she had never gone to personally meet doc even after dad telling her to go nd personally meet doc to tell his health details she completely ignored) she called doc ,then after some time doc called nd told her that dad has been put on ventilator, she still did not go to check his dad -17th mistake, eveningcalled pro office asking about his health instead of doc they told he is stable at night she called around 11:30pm pro office they told he was stable( docs go for check up around 9:30 pm daughter didn't called doc at that time to see her father on phone),
Next morning she called doc ,doc asked her did she not get a call at 9:30 pm she got confused nd asked why then doc informed that dad passed away at 9:22 pm at night
She couldn't believe nd asked doc to recheck as she had enquired at 11:30 pm when pro office told dad is stable, doc rechecked again and confirmed.
From that day the daughter is crying and crying telling it is she who is responsible for his death.
What to do with her?
Next morning she called doc ,doc asked her did she not get a call at 9:30 pm she got confused nd asked why then doc informed that dad passed away at 9:22 pm at night
She couldn't believe nd asked doc to recheck as she had enquired at 11:30 pm when pro office told dad is stable, doc rechecked again and confirmed.
From that day the daughter is crying and crying telling it is she who is responsible for his death.
What to do with her?
Staff refused treatment at 1st hospital as they said he was critical d needed icu which they did not have, 2nd hospital being government hospital gave treatment for covid remdesivir injection only not for his lung infection , they could not give steroids due to sugar may get even high ( sugar was already high due to infection), they told to wait for 5 days as virus will become weak them they will start treatment but father died 4th day so no treatment given practically to a critical patient with co mortified ( the hospital didn't have a pulmonogist and treating doctor was only HOD medicines, complications he might not have known)
You obvioiusly think the 'daughter' needs punishment , despite her seemingly doing everything she could while you looked on -perhaps with a notebook & pen?- and what about you? Where were you when all these decisons about' the father' were being made? Do you want her stoned or something, publically humiliated? Will that bring the unfortunate deceased back ?
What a catalogue of errors. My commiserations for your loss. I understand your anger and frustration. In this situation the punishment is the loss of her father and the guilt she I assume is feeling. Unfortunately we are not gifted with hindsight, and our apathy or misunderstandings at the time can no longer be remedied. If your culture requires punishment I cannot condone it. Personally I would put it down to tragic circumstances. But also personally I would find it hard to forgive her, and I would never forget.
Actually I think your title says a lot "Taking Life Of Your Father".
You obviously blame the daughter for his death and are seeking support for punishing her in some way. Well you won't get that from me!
She hasn't broken any law & if you take physical action against her you will have. And you will deserve any punishment you get for that.
You obviously blame the daughter for his death and are seeking support for punishing her in some way. Well you won't get that from me!
She hasn't broken any law & if you take physical action against her you will have. And you will deserve any punishment you get for that.
I am not related to the family, only colleague of daughter she narrated the same like this nd she asked what punishment should she get, actually she is a bit confused and absent minded girl, even at work sometimes she forgets the important tasks assigned , gets confused and make mistakes often.
And in this case series of mistakes which were made partly even I think she made lethal mistakes, I have seen her father , very strongly built man he was, the dad had under gone 2 angioplasties, diabetic , had pleural infusion issue 5 years ago but what she used to tell us I could infer he was a strong man physical and mental, but the ignorance and negligence of his daughter and hospital staff+ isolation along with tensions of his children could be a major cause, as for his condition I saw his blood report: every thing was normal , x ray I am not sure , plus he was covid suspected as in one report, may be he tested +ve because of vaccine not covid itself, it may be pleural infusion issue of years back recurring, and doc confused it with acute pneumonia, had she been more alert, consulted family or her dad, told facts straight to doc , personally met the doc nd explained things to him clearly, kept on looking for other treatment options or consulted other docs,gave mental support to dad by calling him to enquire his health and any thing he needed , he must have stayed strong nd overcome the problem.
And in this case series of mistakes which were made partly even I think she made lethal mistakes, I have seen her father , very strongly built man he was, the dad had under gone 2 angioplasties, diabetic , had pleural infusion issue 5 years ago but what she used to tell us I could infer he was a strong man physical and mental, but the ignorance and negligence of his daughter and hospital staff+ isolation along with tensions of his children could be a major cause, as for his condition I saw his blood report: every thing was normal , x ray I am not sure , plus he was covid suspected as in one report, may be he tested +ve because of vaccine not covid itself, it may be pleural infusion issue of years back recurring, and doc confused it with acute pneumonia, had she been more alert, consulted family or her dad, told facts straight to doc , personally met the doc nd explained things to him clearly, kept on looking for other treatment options or consulted other docs,gave mental support to dad by calling him to enquire his health and any thing he needed , he must have stayed strong nd overcome the problem.
