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Help for 16 month old
My 16 month old son is very lively and energetic like any other toddler. Generally he is well behaved but just lately he has started screaming and continues to do things that we have told him no, for example not to touch the oven as its hot. He knows its wrong because he looks straight at you as he's doing it. The screaming thing I think is just a phase and has probably picked it up from nursery, seems to be a frustration thing but I cant get him to listen when I tell him no. He also likes to run away from us when we are out shopping etc. He gets fed up when sitting in the trolly so we let him walk and tell him to stay with us, he does for a while but then runs off. Can any give any advise?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I would introduce the naughty step but you need to be consistent about it (all of the people who look after him have to do it the same way) or you could ask the nursery how they do it so that you are only using one approach. As for running off, get some walking reins and put them on him every time you go out (try to get ones with a long strap - some of them have really short straps and are not very useful).
Thanks guys, Ive tried toys, books etc in the trolly to try and keep his occupied but he soon gets bored. Also tried giving him small things to carry so he feels like he's helping but again gets bored. I have just bought some reins so will be testing them shortly have also considered the naughty step but wasn't sure if he was too young to understand.
Ettelloc, if you don't start the reins soon you will have a real problem getting him to wear them. I always put reins on the little ones when we leave the house so I can keep hold of them if they try to do a runner. They are a lot quicker than you think, it only takes a momentary distraction and he could be gone (and they are hard to find because they are so short!).
Joeluke its more of holding his arm as he wants to be off on his own, I dont want to drag him round the supermarket by his arm. As much as You hate to see a child tethered I'm sure other people hate to see a child being dragged or screaming in a trolly or running all over. Thanks Sherrard I will be usuing them as of tomorrow, I think they will do the trick as Im not restricting his arms as such and he will still have his freedom to some extent
You say he tries to 'run away from us' - if you're not a single parent then maybe try leaving him at home with one parent while the other does the shopping? (I know it's much harder if you're on your own) My son is pretty similar though he's three and a half now, I've found that rather than find ways to keep him entertained I just don't take him out shopping in the first place. I agree that many of the methods people use are more suited to slightly older children - it's worth trying sticker reward charts etc but try not to get too frustrated if he doesn't change overnight.