11 year olds

[rockyracoon]

My daughter had her primary school leavers disco last night, it was lovely to see all the kids dressed up in their finest......except that, a couple if the girls had on skyscraper heels that would have had Victoria Beckham struggling to walk. Am I on my own thinking this is not on, would you let you 11 year old daughter walk around in heels that high?

[jno]

don't do that, rocky! She has to grow up - for her own sake, not yours. The same as we all did.

[rockyracoon]

I know jno, it's just flipping hard.

[LoftyLottie]

Re the shoes - absolutely not. And I hate to see little girls dressed up like adults. I understand that they want to appear grown up and I think you have to be flexible, but I would draw the line at provocative clothes and skyscraper heels for a good few years after 11 years old.

[NOX]

Don't get me wrong rocky I loved it when she was 5 years old and thought her Daddy was the most important man in the world, but it's part of being a good parent to accompany them as they leave all that behind and become young people. Hope it goes well for you though:)

[LoftyLottie]

NOX, As a parent, I think it is my duty to protect my child. To me letting a child go out provocatively dressed is just being wise. You can't let children do just as they like, not because you are being draconion, but because you actually do see the dangers that they are not aware of.

[LoftyLottie]

'not letting a child go out provocatively dressed'

And sorry but very high heels do have provocative connotations. I loved them when I was young ;o)

[NOX]

I think artificially keeping a child ' young' is far more of a danger so that you have 14-17 year olds who still act as though they are 9 years old, than ever it is a danger for a girl to wear a pair of high heels or make up and slowly get used to thinking and acting for themselves. Over protected kids really scare me as the world is so dangerous that you can ill afford to have teenagers who are vulnerable and not equipped to deal with situations, and I don't really honestly think high heels have 'connotations' on their own, I think it's just normal girl behaviour.