gutted isnt the word ;-(

[suagrtits]

well, after all the years we've been together, all the hints all the ''discussions'' my partner and i have had, he finally popped the question this morning! Been out all day looking at rings and couldn't find 'the one' so we decided to keep looking and not to announce it to our friends till monday when were holding a jubilee party. Obviously our close family know as i couldnt contain our excitement but we wanted to make a bit of a big deal about it when everyone was together.
Anyway get home and log on to see that one of the guests, and infact a mutual friend has just announced she has also just got engaged. I know i sound bridezilla before weve even started but im absolutely gutted, ive cried my eyes out for the past few hours, there's no way we can announce ours now,it would be like stealing their thunder so to speak. Im so happy for them, but cant shake off this feeling of utter disappointment, ive waited so long for this ;-(

[grasscarp]

I wasn't kicking you at all. I just said that this is not a matter for regret or tears or feeling gutted. Was it only meaningful for you if you were the only ones in your circle getting engaged. I did think this post was not for real. While an engagement and big wedding are very important to some people, they are not necessary to be happy. I had neither, but have been married for 34 years. I wish you well and a long and happy marriage.

[brenda]

Share your joy with the other couple.Goodness knows what you will be like if you ever have a real crisis .Get a grip , be happy , enjoy , share the news .Getting engaged is not something exclusive to you.

[B00]

Don't say anything.

Just put engagement bunting alongside the jubilee ones :-)

[suagrtits]

just spoke to a mutual friend of our's now, told her everything. She said that although she feels the same way i do as she knows how long i have wanted this she feel's that i am doing the right thing keeping things quiet for now. She pointed out that we all know what this other person is like and she would be really offended and infact narked if we announced ours straight after hers. I dont want to upset anyone or have any bitchiness so were just going to keep it quiet for a bit

[grasscarp]

I hesitate to say anything more suagrtits, but this is your life and if I were you I would be telling everyone. Someone else's engagement at this time is a coincidence nothing more. Why worry what other people think. Those that are happy for you are your friends and anyone that is not pleased about it never was your friend.

[rowanwitch]

you need to take things a little less seriously... this kind of overreaction is difficult to live with... a sense of proportion would be the best engagement present you could give yourself...

Life will throw far worse things at you...

[Nini74]

well if you're not going to announce it, you'd better hope that all of your families and your mutual friend can keep quiet. TBH, I don't understand why you got upset in the first place - "announcing" your engagement isn't and shouldn't be such a big deal - and crying for a few hours over the fact that somebody else has got engaged appears to be bordering on the irrational. Why keep your engagement quiet? so that when you announce it you get all the attention? just speak to your friend before the party, tell them the situation and that you'd like to make it a joint celebration for both couples - it will mean far more to everyone else there, who probably won't be in the slightest bit bothered if 10 couples announce their engagement. Enjoy your party! and celebrate your engagement. You mentioned Bridezilla, don't give anyone else a reason to. Congratulations by the way x

[DaisyNonna]

I brought my wedding a day forward because a friend wanted to get married in the same chuch and hold her reception at the same venue. She was unable to change. I got married on the Friday, she got married on the Saturday. We both attended each other's weddings.
Makes two engagements close together not really an issue.

[EvianBaby]

I think you are being a total drama queen.

You have someone in your life that loves you so much they want to spend the rest of it with you and you're crying your eyes out. Get over it.

[stokemaveric]

look on the bright side..at least she hasnt shared your boyfriend with you...