If it makes you feel any better I have herpes and my bird doesn't know yet (unless one of my mates has let on to her behind my back.) We've been intimate but I always use condoms. I've not passed it on to any of the women I've been with since getting it (5 out of 5 isn't bad eh?) It has meant I must wear condoms all my life until I find the one I want to be with and even then she's got to not run a mile when I tell her. I'm thinking I'll ask her to marry me first and then I'll tell her. In fact doctors recommend that if a couple are to have kids and the woman hasn't caught it yet, it's best that she catches it first as the subsequent outbreaks are worse. I got a lot of stick when I asked a question on here about it too so don't pay any attention to them, just try and be careful from now on and if the worst happens at least you can say you always tried not to pass it on. It's you that's got to live with it just now and you can't expect your life to stop just because of a minor inconvienience like that. Good luck! And if all else fails there is this, it's crap for the UK but US has good coverage I think.
http://www.mpwh.com/