Do age gaps work?

[vickyonform]

Is there many people in big age gap relationships that have worked out?

[andy hughes]

It does depend on the gap, but more importatnly on the individuals involved.

This is a cultural aspect of life - Western society takes a hands-aloft-in-horror attitude to significant age gaps between couples, even if the couple are perfectly happy with each other. I would guess that there are many many couples with an age gap who ahve been perfectly happy, and those that have not could have split for a variety of differences - age not being one of them.

I am a believer in live-and-let-live - having seen friends of my in-laws whose eldest daugher married a mand four years older than her father. Her fatuer was outraged, and boycotted the wedding, a decision he bitterly regrets because his daughter and husband are blissfully happy together after more than fifteen years of marriage.

[smorodina]

A little over 22 years. I think the interests and attitudes of the partners are the most important thing. While we both like things the other doesn't, there is a large area of cross-over in music, films, tv and literature. We have our differences, of course, as any couple does, but age never seems to be an issue.

[smudge]

Against my parents wishes, my sister married a man 18 years older than her. She was 18 & he was 36.

They went on to have four children & have just celebrated their 51st wedding anniversary!

Although I & some other members of my family can't stand the bloke (only 'cos we know things about him that my sister doesn't), she & her kids love him - so that's all that matters!