boyfreinds daughter ruining relationship

[emk1981]

my boyfreind of 7 months has full custody of his 7year old daughter.  for the past 5 months, she has been displaying jealousy and animosity towards me.  whenever her dad and i are together, whether its a quick kiss or just sitting together, she will either get between us or lash out and say things like "u love her more than me".  while i understand that she looks at me as the 'other woman', its begun to get on my nerves.  all my boyfreind does is tell her to knock it off or he ignores it.  she is disrespectful towards me, doesnt listen to me at all (even if i ask her to pick up her toys) and she makes faces at me and stuff.  but then, 5 minutes later, she is asking me to play with her.  she also climbs into the bed at night in between us.  if we wake up to her coming in, he takes her out, but if we dont, we find her there in the morning.  3 times iv gone to have an intimate time with him, only find that she is under the covers at the end of the bed sleeping.

im fed up with this.  this child will never let her dad have a relationship.  im beginning to think of leaving him because of her, which sucks because i love him so much.  but i cannot stand it when he and i are close that i get yelled at and degraded by a kid.  amkes me not like her at all.

what do i do?

[emk1981]

UPDATE

i would like everyone to know that i have taken everyones advice and am happy to say that the past couple of days there has been an improvement with my bf's daughter and i. 

i have been firm and patient, spending time alone with her and with her father as well.  talked with her father and explained some things and i beleive that we're gonna make it and be an official family one day.  i suggested family counseling and he agreed, so we'll be setting that up soon.

i apologize for looking like a coldhearted bitch, and thank you everyone for showing me my errors.

[ursula62]

Best of luck emk - I'm sure with lots of love and patience you will forge a strong bond with this unhappy little girl given time.

[kick3m0n]

I want to wish you the very best of luck!!   Also, well done you for really wanting to make a difference - it couldn't have been easy reading these replies (my own included) let alone taking on baord the many suggestions.  Hope you are one big happy family some day soon. xx

[simont]

Mrs simon-t says....

That is such great news.  I'm so thrilled for all of you, and am just delighted that there are some times in this life that we have that glimmer of a happy ending.

You will make it, because you want to make it...

God bless!