I've lost sexual desire for my girlfriend!

[Tecate]

Me and my girl have been going out for about 6 months and in the beginning I couldn't get enough of her physically. As time went on naturally I wasn't jumpng on her the same as I did. It's now been 2 weeks since we had sex and although she says it's OK,I discussed it with her and admitted that I'm just not as up for it and that it feels the same old and boring. She has clearly been hurt but is such an amazing girl she hasn't really expressed it although she obviousley is and kind of said so by saying how untactful I was. I want to develop our relationship further even more but I'm just not feeling it the same anymore.Any suggestions?

[Drivel]

she's not been bored for over 2 weeks terram , try to keep up.

[Ice.Maiden]

Sorry - I see you've been with her for 6 months, but it's 2 weeks since you had sex. Let her go!

[pastafreak]

They have reached the stage where the initial ardour has died down....quite normal really. Now the hard work starts if they want the relationship to progress.

[Ice.Maiden]

True Pasta, but the relationship's still in its early days yet. I don't think people NEED to work at something which comes naturally when you're in love with someone. After a few years - yes, maybe you put a bit of extra effort into things to spice the bedrom antics up, but surely not after such a short time?

[londonlove]

I agree to a certain extent to all that has been said, but really if they have only been going out for a few months, then why should the girlfriend have to do any hard work to mend a relationship that hasn't even kicked off properly.

Six months:
That's the time that everything should be nearly perfect and he blew it by being too honest...if I were the lady then that stinging comment would always remain in my mind and I would start to mistrust the guy...cos if he is bored then there are so many other attractions out there...
I can't see why Tecate wants to take it any further if the relationship is so badly missing in certain aspects. I think she deserves better than being treated as a potential wife and child-bearer.

[pastafreak]

Well..tecate percieves this as a problem.....so yes-maybe things do need some work. He/they obviously do not see this as normal....as they are questioning it. Sometimes the period when desire wanes a bit is a dangerous time as it is too easy to assume that the relationship is dying.

[londonlove]

Oops Ice.Maiden, just posted nearly the same as you!
Sorry about that.

[lil123]

Maybe it has just run it's course and now it's time to move on.
I have been with my boyfriend 6 months and we do it more than ever now I still can't get enough of him. We have grown to love each other though and this had made all the difference.
I don't think I would ever go off him x

[sqad617]

"I don't think I would ever go off him x "

Do you mean sexually?

If so, I just would like a �1 for every time that has been proved wrong, I would be a billionaire.

Things and people change.

[Bbbananas]

Things certainly do change.

But 6 months & you're already going off her? You should be just reaching your peak, so to speak. You don't stand a cat in hell's chance of ever reaching 6 years.

Let her loose now, poor girl, and let her find someone who values her a bit more and hopefully a lot longer.

[sqad617]

Mornin young salla...you were right on form with your posts yesterday, running on 5* petrol that you clearly "sucked up"

[Rachel1089]

You need to decide whether or not you love this girl, if not stringing her along is just plain cruel.
I agree that sex is always better, and more prolific, to begin with but afterjust six months you should still be barely allowing each other out of the bedroom. I can honestly say that after that short a period of time I was still completely interested in my boyfriend and was not even considering spicing up our sex life as it was more than adequate.
Good luck with trying to figure this out.