Men (mainly) - your views?

[Sasha13]

Right - long story short as it's been told before (except the last bit):

Started seeing someone. He decided he didn't want a relationship just sex. Fine by me. Been meeting up every couple of weeks (nearly always at his suggestion) for 6 months. Texts me last Sat. night asking if I'm up for some. I say no for the first time in ages. He replies that he wasn't in the area anyway. I go out on a date on Sunday with someone else. Load of his friends see me out. with guy no. 2. Now he's practically ignoring me. Fairly sure he will have found out about date.

Question is; do you think he's trying to do the right thing by backing off when there's another guy on the scene or is he pi$$ed off with me?

[Champagne]

'Pretty Woman' was a prostitute and it didn't stop her from getting emotionally involved!

Sasha, have you actually tried taking control of this situation by contacting HIM<B/I> to arrange your next rendezvous? Assuming you still want to of course. (the sex man that is, not the cr&p date!!)

[Lonnie]

Isaid he's using you,because thats the way it seems, its ok for him to go out with someone else, but it appears he doesn't want you to, a one way street.

[redhead23]

he is an arse , forget him think of yourself higher , what if u got pregnant? would he stand by you ? doubt it -
he wants a leg over like most men and u r offering it on a plate , find a decent bloke and have an all round relationship , dont u feel cheap and used? why put yourself up to be used like that , u must have low self esteem and he probaly picks up on that too

[Sasha13]

Ha ha redhead23 - did you actually read any of the previous answers before posting because it doesn't look like you did? And it doesn't look like you read the question either!

What if I got pregnant? Chances are about 0.01% since I take contraception very seriously. It's a risk thousands of women take every day.
Don't I feel cheap and used? No, I'm having consensual sex with someone knowing where I stand. He's not leading me on!
I must have low self esteem?? Why on earth do you think that? The fact that I'm single is not because I never meet anyone, rather that I'm not prepared to 'settle' for someone I'm not in love with. I've ended more than one seemingly perfect relationship because something was missing for me - I'd rather be on my own than be with someone who isn't right for me. Is this a mark of low self esteem??

The reason I asked 'do you think he's pi$$ed off with me' was not so I could go running to him to apologise for going out with someone else!!!! It was to get an insight into his behaviour!

Sheesh, I wish I hadn't bothered!!!