Would You Accept His From Your Long Term Partner

[MDWCT2018]

I have been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend and we have been living together for 8 months now .In the early stages he was in awe of me but he has since, become more comfortable with me.
He lives with me in my flat. we have a next door neighbour who is a single mother with a young boy. The mother is a little bit nuts as one would expect being on her own with her child, but she does 'strange' things too such as walking in the hallway to throw her rubbish in sexy slips etc. Hmmmm......
Her child is very sweet and cute, but makes a lot of noise and I mean A-LOT of noise. If he is not screaming and throwing things and whining, it is his mother.
I have complained many times about this to the landlord because these are tiny city flats with thin walls, not exactly the ideal place to raise a child. The mother doesn't work and they never seem to leave their flat. My boyfriend agrees the woman is crazy but thinks I am a b***h for complaining about the child. Believe me, it not something I have done lightly but at 3 am it is like a banshee wailing and is scary. My best friend has said that for whatever reason my boyfriend has taken this Childs side (even though obviously my fight is not with the child) and that I deserve more loyalty from him. My friend has basically said that my boyfriend has chosen this child over me .... do you see it that way?

[MDWCT2018]

as if it hadn't kicked off enough on this thread... they have started next door again!!! Marvelous!

[spathiphyllum]

you keep provoking each other.

[spathiphyllum]

lol MDW get recording!

[Calicogirl]

Yeah and that's why we function as a society and community because we make allowances for some things ( like deaf old ladies TV's and people teething babies). If we don't do that then we are nothing but selfish fools.

[Rockrose]

I think the boyfriend is right.
Also I am uncomfortable with the phrase he was in awe of you, you sound high maintenance and needy tbh I think you need to grow up

[spathiphyllum]

Well you are naive. The worlds full of selfish fools! Eat or be eaten.

You can not pander people if they're ruining your life. Fair if you can, good quality to have do try to keep it.

[MDWCT2018]

Calico I just want to say that you have attacked and upset me on this thread as I rightly pointed out because of YOUR insecurities and projections. This boy does NOT have autism. I am NOT your neighbour. He lives in a 275 sq ft one bedroom flat in the square mile with no parks or anything.He is like a caged animal, of course he is going to cry. This is a £2000 + a month flat.She owes him quality of life. She has options if she can live here and that is a fact.Even my boyfriend has said she is a b****h, something you keep choosing to overlook . You need to wake up! I hope you and your son get the help and support you need but I definitely think you owe me an apology tainting me with the same brush as your neighbour in what is a completely different situation.

[Ken4155]

You said that your boyfriend agrees 'she is nutty' but says you are 'a b***h' for complaining about the child. When did you say he agreed she was a b***h?

[Calicogirl]

Whooooah MD, massive misunderstanding on your part- I was throwing a hypothetical example of what your neighbour might say about you, that is NOT my scenario.
I'm really not projecting my insecurities onto you I'm afraid. I am very happy in my relationship, career, living situation and homelife etc, we have very nice homes, a very happy family now and we don't feel the need to agree with one another about everything, or to obsess about normal inconveniences of daily life and living.
I am genuinely sorry that you're upset and unhappy, but I don't feel that I am responsible for that, I just held up the mirror for you to understand how some other people see you.
I hope that clarifies things for you.

[Purist]

This thread needs to be closed, it is just tedious bickering now

[spathiphyllum]

"other people see you. "

I guess that's the issue with the internet. You're not seeing anyone, you're getting a vibe from some text on a screen. Like most text picking up tone or sarcasm is near on impossible.

[spathiphyllum]

agree purist, it started interesting then got quickly futile.

[Calicogirl]

I thought you didn't approve of closed threads Spathi?

[spathiphyllum]

It depends why a thread is closed, but usually you're right.

[MDWCT2018]

Calico you have serious imagination. I think maybe you could write a short story on the evil victorian-esque high flying better than everyone neighbour me, and the poor tart with a heart single mother with her 'austisc' son in her expensive corporate residence. Reads like Dickens to me

[Calicogirl]

My point was MD, that you seem 'tone deaf' to the way you come across and then accused me of attacking you for pointing out how you DO come across. Even your language in your last post smacks of you feel you are better than your neighbour. You seem very smug to be paying £2k per month for a flat, which tbh if it's in Square Mile isn't much of a flat for that much :/

[MDWCT2018]

Calico I understand you have a lot of issues. I understand you have an active imagination. I understand you feel resentful because you. think I am 'picking' on a single mother who is breaching not just environmental laws and terms of lease, but also basic neighbourly courtesy. I think you feel insecure by me and my achievements in life such as a not much of a flat in the Square Mile... If your relationship was so great and your life that great why would you feel the need to talk about it? Not everything is about you and your little imagination. Do consider writing your books on evil high flyers with their poor little Austistc neighbours.Instead of being passive aggressive, holier than thou look at your own reflection. You are not as saint like as you think.

[ummmm]

MD...If you are worth so much maybe look at your punctuation.

This is a shameful post by you.

And Spath doesn't have children (although I don't believe a word he says) so doesn't have a clue about kids

[bednobs]

Yes I would and do accept that my husband has different views about a lot of things to those of mine. As a parent of a newish child I feel sure that if the mum could do something to make the child quiet she would! Why don't you ask your company to move u somewhere else?

[nailit]

I read through this post earlier.
MDWCT2018 you seemed quiet happy that ur boyfriend was 'in awe' of you but now that he has expressed an opinion of his own you go on to say that there are plenty more fish in the sea?
Really?
How shallow can you get?
Do you want a man who can formulate his own opinion or a simp that agrees with everything you say?
I totally agree with the noise issue but as you say, this is about ur partner not the noise (except where it suits you)
If I was ur partner Id run a mile from you and your prejudices and ur low opinion of what a partner should be.
Get a lapdog.