Army relationship..what am i letting myself in for?

[amalthia_77]

I recently tried online dating and got talking to a guy who is currently serving in the British army in Afghanistan. We were sending messages online for about 2 weeks before we met up when he came home for a weeks R&R last week. We had 2 dates while he was back..which were very successful. The second date was the night he was returning to Afghan so i was the last person he saw before his return. He also introduced me to 2 of his best mates. Needless to say we got on really well, i really like him and he really likes me (so he says).

He messaged me on fb as soon as he was back at camp yesterday. He's out there for another 5 weeks then will be coming home for good. He's said he wants to see much more of me when he's back and make a go of things. I know that dating someone in the army is tough and I'm concerned that even though we got on extremely well, 2 dates is not a lot, he could easily forget about me, meet someone else online and not come back to me when he finishes tour. I've heard many stories of couples who have been married years and their army relationship not surviving..what chance have i got from just 2 dates!

Any thoughts genuinely appreciated...wahhh!

[ummmm]

You will never know unless you try. If he's coming home for good in 5 weeks I can't see the problem?

[rockyracoon]

You've only been on two dates so you don't really need to be looking to far into the future. You say he's coming home for good, is he leaving the army? Wait til he comes home, go on a few more dates and see where it goes, then you can decide if you think you love him enough to make the sacrifice of being an army wife. As for the he may meet someone else scenario, that can happen anywhere with anyone.

[amalthia_77]

Coming home for good probably wasn't the best choice of words..he's not leaving the army just shouldn't have to serve in afghan again. It's difficult because i want to show him I'm loyal and will 'wait' for him..but at the same time don't want to get too involved in case i get burned. I really have no idea how to deal with the situation! Good advice from both so thanks :)

[237SJ]

Go for it. There`s no more chance of the relationship ending because he is in the army than if he is in any other line of work. My "first love" was RAF (and I have been out with a Navy guy as well which was short lived). The Army seem to be away more but none of the services are away as much these days than they used to be years ago. It`s not easy but if the relationship is good, it will work out.

[boxtops]

Home is very important to the guys away from home, so it's nice that you've met and that he has something to look forward to when he comes home. Don't expect him to tell you anything about what he's doing out there, though - they're not allowed to, and tbh you wouldn't want to know. Make your conversations about what's happening here with you - he'll want to hear about normality. If you're still not sure of him - and as you say, two dates is not a lot - don't let it get to heavy at this early stage. He'll be looking forward to coming home in five weeks' time, believe me.

[Hafsoh]

2 dates or more doesn't matter. What is more important is the future and it seems to look bright, so lets keep hoping it for the best, you both getting on quite fast so lets hope it for real. You shouldn't disturb yourself of what you can't control, play your part very well and the good God will see you through successfully.

[Hafsoh]

2 dates or more doesn't matter. What is more important is the future and it seems to look bright, so lets keep hoping it for the best, you both getting on quite fast so lets hope it for real. You shouldn't disturb yourself of what you can't control, play your part very well and the good God will see you through successfully.