Alone at Christmas

[EcclesCake]

I am going to be spending Christmas day on my own. This is a conscious decision and I am happy with it.

So....why is everyone I know trying to get me to spend Christmas day with them and repeatedly telling me that I don't really want to be on my own.

I appreciate that my friends care for me and like to look out for me but I am getting seriously hacked off with the intrusion and suggestions that I am in denial.

I am looking forward to waking up on Christmas day opening a bottle of bubbles and dancing around the house in my PJs, OK I don't wear PJs but I'll still have the bubbles. I might eat beans on toast and I might not, but, whatever happens the day will be spent indulging myself and having a good time.

Why can't the well meaning appreciate that?

Sorry, rant over.

[Mick-Talbot]

No idea...... But good luck with not getting dragged off somewhere you do not want to be.

[parkie]

Probably because they all think Christmas time is a chance for family and friends to get together and they cannot think why anyone wants to be alone Eccles.
But it's everyone to their own.
Have a good time whatever you decide.

[abstibus]

Eccles
Some people don't realise that being alone and being lonely are not the same.

[vodkancoke]

Hi Eccles. My Mum and Dad have a close friend who comes to ours every Christmas. His wife (who died 4 years ago) was my Mum's best friend and my Mum always feels bad for him on his own. Now there are 28 of us normally around the Christmas table. I'm sure he would rather be at home alone when faced with our rabble! lol

I hate to think of people on their own at Christmas, only because it is my favourite time of the year and all the family are together. At the same time I understand people wanting to be on their own and would never force them or guilt them into spending Chritmas with us. I live alone and some of my friends and family always think I'm lonely and they worry about me. Maybe your friends are the same but I think if you say no then they should respect that. Personally, I think your Christmas sounds fab...can I come?? lol xx

[Traci66]

You could get together with like minded people and all be alone together ;-)

[ttfn]

Eccles - just wait until the TV listings come out ;)

[shoota]

Why don't you come to ours Eccles?

[AB Editor]

As parkdale says, it's not the usual thing to do.

Maybe they're just reading it as you're a free agent who would make their own Christmas day a little bit better?

[Mamyalynne]

Just calmly explain to those who ask and have a fabulous self indulgent time.

[ttfn]

I suspect in many instances, people who will have company at Christmas have a guilty conscience knowing that others will be alone. An invitation from them is kind so long as they are able to accept your answer.

[shoota]

After all you don't want to be alone at Christmas surely........?

[The Builder]

I've done that myself many times Eccles. My favourite Christmas lunch being smoked salmon, cheeses, and plenty of good wine.

I've developed a good plan for dealing with this ...... simply tell each one that you're going to spend the day with one of the others. They never work it out :o)

[commoner]

lol..They really don't believe you when you tell them you will be happy to be on your own...so they ask you to join them....;-)

Happy Christms Eccs..

[Sammy48]

I know a few people who prefer christmas on their own, I dont see the problem, its just another day.

[craft1948]

I love Xmas on my own...............it usually involves steak, chocolates, champagne and lots of trifle, on a few occasions I've never even got dressed. I lied for quite a few years as to where I was actually going to be at Xmas but eventually got found out. Enjoy yourself, you can do whatever you want...........

[EcclesCake]

Ab Editor - are you suggesting having a stranger at the table will stop the annual family squabble when Aunty Joan has had too much sherry and berates Cousin Eric for his appalling choice of wife?

Thanks for the invites to mine and yours but you can all bugger off I'm not sharing my bubbles!

Builder that was my plan until the neighbours started with their invites, I'd be quickly sussed then.

I think Annmollie has hit the nail on the head. I'm not lonely, I just want to spend the day on my own and not be subjected to another families rituals and squabbles.

[commoner]

..mm..."its just another day. "..not to all of us sam...not to all of us by a long chalk....

[owdhamer]

Merry Christmas.

[Psybbo]

That sounds like my idea of heaven, enjoy.

[DTCwordfan]

You could always find a nice Jewish or Muslim family - no Xmas there......