grapey i have to agree, you have been through so much in the past few weeks. Let the dust settle first and give yourself some man free thinking time. Thats just my advice and of course, its entirely up to you if you feel ready for all the complications that come with seeing someone new. .Saying all that, you dont need us to lecture you on what you do and don't need. That is your choice.
Now in answer to your question, yeah i think you can have a wonderful relationship with someone who you dont necessarily fancy straight off. i often find that side of it is something that grows. and when it does, unlike an immediate attraction, it doesnt fade with time.