Fathers Day for people who no longer have a Dad?

[Dris]

Im not being maudlin nor being a killjoy but its something which has to be achnowledged.

I have been to see my Dad -im lucky.

I dont agree with it at all as solely for the purposes of commercialism it causes a lot of people a lot of pain.I can assure you it does so theres no ifs buts or maybes.

So cherish your Dad everyday -as every day you have him is a day you should be thankful for.

So for all the people who today are upset and visiting graves my love and thoughts are with you x

[Dris]

Im sorry-I didnt get as far as Greedflys thread....

[Bobbisox]

it's a double emotion for me Dris, my Mam died on Fathers Day which fell on the 16th of June that year, which is why I was all over the place last Thursday x
so today I will think of both of them x

[lopsibear]

Surely an unneccessary question? How do you celebrate Christmas if you are of a religion that doesn't celebrate it? How do you celebrate Valentine's Day if you are single?

Quite simply, I do not celebrate Father's Day. Some people may visit graves or spend the day being upset but for me and my family, this is another sunday and has been for almost 20 years.

[Bobbisox]

each person id differnt lopsi x

[ummmm]

I think it was nice when he was alive. I seen him a few times a week anyway but we always got together for it and went to the pub. He never expected presents. He was happy with 'the best Dad in the world' mugs

[Dris]

O I didnt realise Joy -I dont think there should be such days -it only causes pain for those who arent fortunate and lets face it it does come to us all.
I firmly believe that if you are lucky enought o have parents who you love and crucially get on with then one day out of the year is a get out clause.Thinking of you hun as well as my 2 today :( x

[Bobbisox]

thank you pet, I am in a nice thinking of them place today...
whereas Thursday, I had just learned one of my dearest friends had been given a couple of weeks to live, then my Mams anniversary as well, I should never have come on to AB that day...but I did, and I can't change that now, so , today I am in a reflective mood, but smiling at the happy memories I have of them both
Joy ♥

[ummmm]

I'm still struggling to smile.

[ummmm]

So maybe you have a point Dris....

[Dris]

O shurrup lopsi -cant be doing with smug obtuse fools.

Im gonna get the Ed to oull this thread as I didnt realise Greedy had one on -that was my fault but before I do i'm glad youre fine today ummm -I get concerned for people i know who have taken loss so badly because of the deep love they had for that person.Hence the reason I feel the way that I do -different grief is just one -I just dont think it should be highlighted to line peoples pockets thats all and im one of the lucky ones who still has a dad.

[Bobbisox]

smile for the lovely times you had with him ummm, and the music and laughter he gave to you, I woke up thinking of you today,
what was Dads fav Irish song? c'mon lets celebrate his life pet x

[Mamyalynne]

Was still alovely thought Dris, cheers to Dads and memories of them.

[ummmm]

His coffin got carried out to this song at his request....not my fav though..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4gii7MPWC9w

[ummmm]

Slievenamon is in Tipperary.

[tamborine]

heavy heart this end Dris for mine & kids....I dont do graves on FD.

[Dris]

oops made an elbow of that post.I knew what I was trying to say but the words just came out wrong.
Joy I didnt realise you had had bad news im so sorry :(
ummm- I know you miss your Dad every single day -I know My kids miss their Dad every single day.I took flowers to his grave and its a long way away as I couldnt bear to think it looked like no one cared but my 2 never asked me to and it was only this morning that J phoned and asked me to take her -3hr round trip-and I said no.She felt pressured into it and that makes me sad.She's fine now as ive since spoken to her and she's relieved that I had taken flowers out.

[Mamyalynne]

Thats very soothing Ummm, I like it.

[Bobbisox]

cheers mamy..x
ummm that's lovely, I like
Tied up with a black velvet band?

[ummmm]

I actually think you're right. I do miss him everyday but days like this just makes me think that everyones out with their Dads and I haven't got one.

[tamborine]

music tearful, ummmm.....sorry for your loss