Do you have loads of friends ??

[Jillius]

I don't really have that many ! I know loads of people but our village is now full of strangers. I have never been one of these women that always has people in and out of my house cos I like being on my own but some days, apart from the kids, I don't speak to anyone ! I aren't complaining but do you think it's abnormal ?
I hope I aren't the only one who is a Billy no mates lol

[daniela31]

I am the same. I know lots of people, and have a friendly chat to some, but have only got two who are real mates.

I don't even have children to chat to. so you are lucky there.
:-)

[puddicat]

No jillius i am like you, i know tons of peoples to say hello to, but only one best friend!!!

[Jillius]

Thanks daniela31. I'm feeling better already !

[Jillius]

Thanks puddicat ! This is comforting. I was beginning to think I was the only one.

[flump2]

i always new daniela was a billy

[funnygirl]

I too am the same. I know lots of people, but have about 3 best friends.

And Flump2, you're not a billy are you???

[daniela31]

read it properly flump2. I said I had two good mates and know lots of people.
Please stop stalking me.

[wendilla]

Yes I am the same know a lot of people but just have a few close friends I have lived in my street for 30 years and everyone moved in more or less at the same time. Now there has been so many changes I think there are only half a dozen of the original people from the start still here.And no it is not abnormal thinking about it I am the same. And sometimes it is best not to neighbour too much .

[terambulan]

Choice isolation I equate with 'dont suffer fools'! Since I run a business, most of my peers dont so we have little in common except when they put their money over my counter.

[mirela]

i only got a dog to talk to, as all my good mates are living other countries!! some new friends are living different cities.

[funnygirl]

Ah Mirela,

You have a talking dog ??!! Joking!!!

It is hard to make new good friends, without them being bitchy!!

[flump2]

^^ oh poor daniela bieng stalked. And she hasnt got any friends to share it with. Awwwww

[mirela]

hi funny
when im alone i call friends home and have long chat hehehe at least international call are cheap these days, so im happy:)
im applying new jobs at moment tho, hope can meet more people, my current job only got 4 staff!!!

[funnygirl]

Genuine friends come in all ages and sizes!!!!

[what..the?]

I was going to say I'm just like you, 'finally Im not the only one like me' lol but then I noticed your statement 'i know loads of people' as the other posters say too.

but....
I dont know many people at all, my day to day existance as I call it is going home in Cornwall in quiet tiny little village where I dont know anyone, to work Plymouth where a work with hardly anyone.

The village where I village is full of rich people who all seem quiet and unsocial not that I am the type to want to chat all the time and go round there house for wine and them round to mine. I rent there too which I dont feel helps, people dont seem to make the effort with renter's thinking they will move in 6 months and it a waste of time. Also most the people are middle aged to elderly so I dont think they think they have anything in common with me 27.

I work with my boyfriend (of 6-7 yrs) who I live with also, I dont drive so all I do is go from home to work 5 days a week to a office where we work alone and talk business on the phone we rarely meet anyone. We dont do holidays or social events due to the boyfriend sweight issues at 20+ stone he is worried about what people think of him and I respect his decision and help him with his feelings and diet long term. He started to put weight on when I met him and piled it on ever since due to the stressful business we own togther . As I result I havent really been out and had fun socially for 6-7yrs.

I really want to get out but my phobia of driving and living in the counrty doesnt really help me get out and there is no public transport. I really do feel social but I also worry that the lack of social environments over the years is effecting me and turning me into a hermit more and more everyday.

[Jillius]

Thanks everyone, I feel so much better now.
Perhaps I was being slightly optimistic when I say I know loads of people lol. I live in a village and hardly know anyone anymore. I used to know everyone but they have built so many new houses that most people are strangers.

[what..the?]

Do they have any events in your village you can go to, they dont in mine pitty I would go along.

[LoftyLottie]

Loads of acquaintances, but only a couple of really good friends (and only one of those is local).

I too don't like people popping in and out of my house - it's the only place in the world where I am assured of privacy and I value that so much.

There are often days when I have no contact with anyone except the dogs and the cat, and Mr LL is often away. It doesn't bother me too much.

You are not abnormal at all.

[LoftyLottie]

Mind you, there are only four houses where I live!!

[Jillius]

Ours is only a small village with absolutely nothing to do. Hubby works away all week so really it's just me and the dog once my son has gone to work and my daughter is at school. There is a council estate at the other end of the village and they are all in and out of each others houses all the time. I would hate that.
I am so pleased that I am not the only Billy no mates. I do not crave a lot of friends, but I thought every one seemed to have a life except me.
Thanks