Is It Wrong

[TWR]

To say it as it is? a lot of us are diplomatic a lot are not, do you cringe by saying the truth & how you see things?

[jackthehat]

No....but it's always best to have a vague idea of exactly what it is you are talking about.

And if you enjoy 'telling it as it is', then you have to realise that other people won't shy away from treating you in the same manner.

[hc4361]

Surely it depends on the circumstances. Often there is no need to say a hurtful thing, however true it may be.

[ummmm]

On here or in real life?

In real life I don't go round giving my opinion to people.

[Baldric]

Too many folk about ready and willing to be offended on behalf of others imo.

[dannyk13]

Depends in what context you are a saying it and to whom.Others feelings should always be considered.

[andy-hughes]

As I always say, context is everything.

If I was travelling in my car and the engine blew up, and I was travelling with male companions, my comments would be different from those I would use if my wife and daughters were in the car.

People who go through life trumpeting that they 'believe in plain speaking ...' simply demonstrate a lack of empathy combined with an undeserved sense of importance, believing that their (usually pointless) opinion should be heard by the assembled company, and couched in terms that make no concessions to the sensitivities of others.

For that reason, I avoid 'saying it how it is', and prefer to say how I see it - which is very different - in a way that does not deliberately ride roughshod over others present, and which invites disagreement if any is caused.

[andy-hughes]

I cross-posted with everyone whose post is in front of mine - but I can see a broad consensus here.

[TWR]

In real life Ummm, myself, I have never altere.

[Old_Geezer]

It may or may not be wrong depending on circumstances. It may be said without regard to social expectations. It may be inappropriate, or stated without consideration of others feelings. It may be rude. One needs to consider specific circumstances not give folk carte blanche to be tactless, boorish and excuse it as, "only being the truth".

[ummmm]

Then no...people rarely give me reason to 'say it as it is' and if they do they are rarely worth my effort.

I really don't care what people think and do...and I assume they feel the same about me.

I save my 'say it as it is' for people who have asked for my honest opinion.

[EcclesCake]

Saying it as it is is a lazy excuse for boorish behaviour.

[bednobs]

i think if your honest opinion is invited on something then it's ok. I didn't go into my office this am and say "deidre, i don't like your dress, suzannah, those glasses make you look like a wally, Mike, your trousers are getting too tight and you either need to go on a diet, or buy bigger trousers"
all of that is "How it is" but i wouldn't presume that any of those people want to hear that