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caron musson | 13:22 Tue 22nd Jan 2008 | Law
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My grandad bought me a premium bond when I was a baby ( when he died I was 30 by then I found out ) that my mother had not actually bought the bond at all , but kept the money my grandad gave for it
My sis was in a bad accident when she was 2 her leg bone came right through her leg ,
When my sis my mother gave her � 200.
We are now wondering if my mother has kept some ?
Would there have been intereast on it?
And how can my sis find out how much she was awarded?
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did your grandad buy a premium bond or just give you some money?
and why did your mum give your sister �200 when she was 2?

can you reread your question, because Im not sure it makes much sense as it is.
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right when we were born ( 3 of us ) my grandad bought all his grankids a bond , he actually went himself to get my sisters but my grandad sent my mam to get mine and my brothers, but she kept the money im just saying that she is decietful about that.
my sister was hit by a car a woman actually died and she was compensated ( she got hit by the car when she was 2)
and my mam said � 200 was the compensation 14 years later .
maybe you can find out about the money for the compansation by checking through the local papers for the time. It may have been reported at that time. Although dont you think that the money would have given as compensation towards the cost of looking after a child with a broken leg? rather than actually for the child later on.

As for the bonds, do you know how much your grandad gave her for the bonds? I cant see that theres much that you do about it as you cant prove that the money was intended for that.
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There is not much I can do about the bond now although it has opened my eyes!!
My grandad used to say if earnie picks your numbers !
I only found out cos I emailed premium bonds and they could find my sisters and not mine or my bro's so Mam had to admit it ( i never had a clue)
And for the other thing the compensation was for my sis not for looking after her deffo I know that much, but Weve never seen any paperwork or anything we are just wondering how she can find out how much she was awarded and wheather my sis was awarded �200 at the time but my mother has kept some of it ?
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The bonds then to buy were �10 in money but I think they are �100 now.
I was deverstated when I found out but thats my mother for you !
Obviously I don't know what your mother is like but were your family short of money when you were young?

It may be she used the money to buy food for the family with it intending to pay it back later and then forgot.

I only say that because I once had to use my son't birthday money because we were so broke - my son knows that I did and I have since paid the money back into his building society, I didn't like doing it but it was that or my son didn't eat, so maybe she is not as bad as you think she is.
as i said, check the papers to see if it was reported on. But if the money was specified to be for your sister only i cant see why it wasnt put in a trust or something for her to ensure that your parents didnt spend it on caring for her, cost of travelling to hospital appts, doctors appts, perhaps having to buy a pushchair etc.

Id be inclined to think as Hellyon does that this money went towards bringing you up. Have you asked your dad what he knows?
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money was tight but when you lie for over 30 years it's a bit bad.
And she made out all this time that we had one bought by my grandad.
It wouldn't matter if she bought me one now ( you can't replace 40 years ) and it's not the money im bothered asbout I wanted it cos it was from my grandad.
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my dad also made out that we had one each!
He does as he's told.
Ive found out from my aunt that the �200 was awarded when she was 2 years old and thats all she got .
I know my lad broke his wrist a small fracture he got awarded �2000 and by 3 years it had gone up to �5000.
My mother would have been given the money as far as my sis is concerned cos she was given it when she was 16 , still a minor see.
you dont say how old your sister is but award was obviously at least 14 years ago. Things were different then, people werent awarded thousands of pounds in legal cases unless their lives had been changed by the accident.

If your aunt said it was �200 then why are you querying it, dont you trust her eiher?
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yes i do trust my auntie but we are thinking that there should have been intereast
It's my mother who is cagey about everything.
my sis is gonna write to the family fund to see if they can help.

why? If you find out your mum lied, so what? As you've already stated you know she's lied so you wont be in any better or worse position. If you find out she kept some money are you going to sue her for it? (how ridiculous!)
if you find out she is telling the truth is it going to make you trust her, despite the fact she's lied about other things?
What a waste of time and effort on your part, and only contributing to bad feeling.
Premium bonds are 1 pound each, so if your grandad gave your mum a pound and she spent it it's hardly the crime of the centuary is it? (you used to be able to buy individual bonds, but now you have to buy a minimum of 100)
bitterness like this just festers and makes you unwell. My advice to you is to just let it go!
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yes thank you for your bitter reply bednobs too!
It is not for me ,it is for my sister, and dont be absurd of corse SHE is not going to sue her!
She justs wants to know if she has been lied to too.
All I asked is if she could find out how much she was awarded!
Are you my mother by any chance?
ive told you to look in local papers
your aunt has told you how much it was

you could also see if you can find out which solicitor, if any, acted for her. They will probably charge but may have the info archived somewhere.

I dont think bednobs reply was bitter at all. Blunt perhaps but its pretty much what i think too.

if you are not looking to sue your mother, then why cant you just sit down with her and ask for honest answers
my god you love your mum !!!!!.. you come on hear and call your mum ... some daughter you are !!! ... life and times were hard in them days.. let it go move on !!! ITS ONLY MONEY !!. i hope she reads what you have put and has nothing to do with you....money graber !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
and if you are think of report me think of this .... your mother made a mistake she was short .. no mother would take her daughters money unless she was in a mess..and she has to live with that.. but my god talk about rub your nose in it !!!.. just read what you put .. and tell me its not about money money money !!....my father died 4 years ago he told me before he died he has a large insurance...when he died my mum said theres no money we all know she lied .. but who carers i dont ...she spends spends spends on things she will never use ! but my dad loved her and if it makes her happy . good on her ....i never questioned the insurance to her at all .. she is my mum and i love her ..end of subject...the love i have for my mother is far more important than money....
When I was a kid, my paternal grand parents were VERY wealthy (I'm talking several houses, land, vineyards...etc), and my dad used to put money in a savings account for my brother and me. When my mum left my father I was 8. She moved to another part of the country, and as she had been a housewife all these years since getting married, she couldn't find a job and she struggled to bring me up, with no help from my dad whatsoever. She took the money from my savings account, and I only found out when I remembered about it several years later. So what? The money was used to bring me up, not for her benefit! It's not like she used it to fund luxurious habits or a drug addiction, is it?? I'm glad she used that money and I wouldn't think of giving her grief about it today! I don';t know what your particular circumstances are, but it sounds like you have issues with your mum that have little to do with money to begin with, and maybe you should concentrate on solving these first. Bitterness and resentment will do you no good.
i dont think you are asking just for your sister hence "we are now wondering..."
you ask if there would have been interest on it - there might have been but only if it had been put in a bank account that paid interest. if for examle it had been kept as cash under the bed, it would not have gained any interest. If it was just in a normal bank account then interest would have been very minimal
200 pounds in a current account over 14 years might attract an interest rate of say 0.1% (to take lloyds bank for an example) my maths is a bit dodgy but i make that 20 p interest a year x 14 years making about �2.80 in 14 years (if you dont count compound interest)
you say that the 2000 pounds your son got "went up"to 5000 in 3 years - how did that happen, it just multiplied did it?? bank accounts simply dont work like that! if you could more than double your money in 3 years everyone would put all they had into a bank account and leave it there!
but maybe your mum didnt have the luxury of a bank account? maybe she spent the money when she needed to thinking "ill give her 200 pounds when she is 16" in that case the money wouldn't have earned any interest either

you say "And for the other thing the compensation was for my sis not for looking after her deffo I know that much, but Weve never seen any paperwork or anything"

how do you know for definate then?

i just honestly cant see where getting an answer will get you, as youve already said you are "deverstated" at how decietful your mum is, how can it make you feel either better or worse to have it reconfirmed or denied?
if you say you believe your aunt it was 200 quid, and your sister got 200 quid, i cant see what your problem is AT ALL.

so, at the end of all this i have 1 question i beg you to answer - how did your sons money increase, and where can i join?
Seems like everyone's got a lot to say so I'll keep it brief!

Unless the compensation was legally awarded after a criminal court case it wouldn't have been reported in a paper.

As mentioned previously, compensation back then was much smaller, so it's possible your mum is telling the truth.

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