Charge been changed!

[confused]

Hi all
been informed today that my ex charges against me have been changed from common assault to assualt and battery!
Does anyone know what time means exactly and what difference it makes to sentencing?

Thanks

[ummmm]

Fair enough if she'd lied to the police in the heat of the moment. What is the point of lying on here though? Nothing to gain.

[sunsetter]

confused I am trying to help, I may be wrong but if I am right please say so so I don't get linched. We all go through bad times and all get hurt. I am sure you have been hurt but I believe we all deserve to know did he hold a knife to your throat?

[ummmm]

Sunsetter...she's gone to bed. She posted on chatterbank saying goodnight.

[northernmonkey]

Providing he shows remorse and regrets his behaviour but importantly is willing to do whatever to address the reasons for his behaviour and do all the classes/other professional help to make sure at all costs it never happens again then you could think about asking the judge to consider a custodial sentence being avoided at all costs due to all what you've said about being there for the kids, and he has since seeked professional help and deeply regrets his actions, and are giving things a 2nd try ect as it would be something taken into consideration whilst the sentencing options are looked at and would be something which would go in his favour

[sunsetter]

Noticed though no answer? I think she wanted him gone and so made accusation and now maybe wishes she hadn't, I may be wrong but like I said I know 3 women who were in simlar situation and they would never concider going back as they were so scared.

[northernmonkey]

from the detailed answers confused has gave, and the honesty throughout everything, would suggest nothing except the truth has been told and at no point can be evident enough to say that would suggest any lies whatsoever

[sunsetter]

I am sorry but I don't agree. I think she is scared but not of him but of implications. she has mental health problems and maybe is scared of the fallout of them on her and her kids. Please don't see me as being nasty I just want to help.

[northernmonkey]

I can understand your point of view and of course everyone has a different point of view and is entitled to it, sometimes it might be disagreeing or a challenging question but I've looked at how it could be look quite easy as if I am calling you basically a liar and I am not, and just want to say so incase you did feel that was the case

[confused]

Hi again everyone, sorry for causing such a fuss last nite after i tried to get some sleep!
To answer your questions sunsetter im not lying and yes of course im scared of implications and how they will effect my family. I know some people are in worse state than me and maybe even stronger than me and cant face going back but i cant help the way i feel. I still love him and do belive or mayhbe hope that with help we can sort our problems out and be happy again. Who knows maybe i will end up regreting it but i know i would regret if i didnt at least try to keep our family another chance of happiness!

[sunsetter]

I think you know my oppinion onfused, If you go back to a man who holds a knife at your throat and punches you next time he may kill you. Do as you wish but I for 1 don't want to see you have been murdered on the news.GET AWAY FROM HIM AND STAY AWAY for the sake of you and your kids

[confused]

Thank you sunsetter for your concern i understand what you are saying - im just totally confused at the moment what to do. I have to wait and see what happens at court first anyway before finally choice can be made - all depends what sentence he gets and how he feels about things as well as to how my and my kids future turn out.

Believe me i wish i could hate him it would make things lot easier but i cant help still loving him and seeing the positives instead of negatives!
Life and love is sooooo complicated!

[sunsetter]

last night it was negative instead of possitive, you still worry me.

[confused]

what you mean i worry you?

[sunsetter]

your inconsistent,

[ummmm]

I don't find her inconsistent.

Have you read her other posts in different topics?

[sunsetter]

also what do you mean it depends how your and your kids future turns out? what does that mean?

[sunsetter]

no. sorry but I just don't believe her there is something not right here.I work with the homeless and many of them have tails to tell and you get a feeling for when things are true and I just don't think this is sorry. Most of all I am sorry to confused as if it is true you must be going through hell. I know there is a question that may find the truth but I don't know what it is?

[confused]

What exactly is your problem sunsetter? Ive been honest and open on here and your giving me hard time! What have i done to you exactly?

[confused]

' what do you mean it depends how your and your kids future turns out? ' i mean i dont know what is going to happen. Im so confused with everything at the moment. And depending on what happens in court depends what happens with my family and their happiness. Its hard to explain but basically at the moment i feel with help and support giving our relationship another go is best for my family but i may end up being wrong but then again if i dont give another go i may regret walking away its a no win situation im scared and confused!

[sunsetter]

you want your family back together so much you are asking about assets, you say he loves his kids then you worry what he will do to them. you want to hate him so hate him, you want to love him so love him.