where do i stand?

[largent6]

my husband and i have split up,i have the sofa as he left the home and said he had took what he wanted.he is currently paying for the sofa but has left me with some debts.he is now demanding the sofa back i have 3 children who use the sofa daily.what are my rights?

[B00]

Where you stand legally, ive no idea, but personally i'd let him have the sofa.

I'd reason, that you could do without the grief that wrangling over the thing will entail, he'll probably just stop paying for it out of spite anyway- and is life worth getting that little bit more stressed about over a sofa?

Let him have it and pick up a cheap 2nd hand one.

[RATTER15]

I think you both have equal rights to it in my opinion, in the same way as you actually owe half the money toward the sofa, if you think that everything in the marriage is split 50/50 including dept's and possessions you wont be far off the mark.

[bednobs]

judge judy would say that if he is paying for it he should have it. Have you got a community furniture store near you? Just get a cheap one

[masma]

My daughters divorce was exactly the same, he wanted the sofa's. She said he could have them if he paid for them, he wouldn't so she kept them and the debt. 4 years later she's just finished paying for them. Let him have them and look in the free ads. Good luck xx

[Bronzerstraw]

1. Try and get back together a) for the children's sake and b) to save all the aggravation, argument and difficulties that lie down the road.
2. If you can't at least try and come to a reasonable arrangement.
3. If you are married you are entitled to 50% of everything gained in the marriage, but you might also be liable for some or all of the debts, depending on what type of debt it is and whose name they are in.
4. Go to the Citizens Advice Bureau for financial advice and help.

[Bronzerstraw]

1. Try and get back together a) for the sake of the children and b) to save all the aggravation, disputes and further problems that will lie down the road.
2. If you can't, try and come to an amicable arrangement.
3. If you are married you are entitled to 50% of everything arising out of the marriage, that may include your share of the debts depending what they are and whose name they are in.
4. Go to the Citizens Advice Bureau, they will advise on your rights and on how to clear your debts (whether together or not)
Good Luck.

[tonywiltshire]

One of the first thing to remember is that you are not responsible for the debts of your husband, or anyone else, providing you have not guaranteed the debt and are not a party to the debt, if you are to be divorced the division of your property will be decided preferably by you and your ex-partner and if not by the court. It will be much better if you can decide before you go to court who gets what, before any possible vindictiveness or bitterness creeps in ( I know is easy to say and not so easy to do).

[lcg]

tell him to sod off and grow up. your children need a sofa. tell him if he wants to take you to court for it he is welcome. also say if he swaps the debt he left you with the sofa, that would also be good. insist on the cash up front, though!!!

[notnutnut]

Sorry,but should your question title not be 'Where Do I Sit' ?

[factor-fiction]

I bet lots of us wanted to say it- I know I typed something along those lines and then thought it might not be appropriate at the time given that the OP sounded upset so I didn't send, but now some time has passed it seems a good observation

[notnutnut]

factor30,sorry my dad was always an 'extractor of the urine' and I am a Private Eye regular so forgive me please,it's just my attempt to cheer largent6 up,at least I'm not the only one it occurred to,do you perchance read Private Eye ?

[Smowball]

If it was a bitter split up then I would let him have the sofa - as he will probably stop paying for it if you dont let him have it. As has already been said you can get an old one on Ebay for peanuts. Also there are local recycle forums everywhere where people just give away furniture they no longer want as long as you can collect it.