How do you agree on things such as

[angel21]

what colour to paint the walls

what you want to call your children

[debbz1969]

The trick is making 'him' think that everything is 'his' idea. Once you have got this sussed its all plain sailing.
It takes a bit of practise, I have it well sussed now.
Alteratively DON'T give 'him' an opinion at all. That saves any debate at all.

[4getmenot]

its just a case of give and take really, decide on a name you both like, decide on a coulour you both like, simple.

[hailthechimp]

Psycadelic drugs in her tea works for me!

[angel21]

Is that really the key? So I need to learn this skill?

So when I have children I should just say to my partner I think such and such is a good name and not let him have any say. Isn't that a bit unfair?

[joggerjayne]

Ditch the "other half" and live on you own.

(seems to have worked for me) !!

[debbz1969]

Well you could let him suggest a name or two, and if you're not impressed with his suggestions tell him it's you that is going to go through the most excrutiating pain of your life and the least he can do is let you pick the name!!!! ;-0

[redcrx]

you just find middle ground and things you both agree on. my partner chose the name of our first child and I chose the name of our second, but if either of us wasnt keen on a name we wouldve thought again.

You dont railroad others into doing what you want, a partnership should be even

[debbz1969]

I'm not talking 'railroading'. I'm talking "use your femine wiles". There is a difference....

[redcrx]

i didnt suggest you were railroading, debbz :)

[angel21]

I want everything to be even but I want everything my own way.

I suppose I just want someone that agrees with me - be boring on some things but not on things like choosing baby names or interior decorating lol

[LoftyLottie2]

Funnily enough you have just made me realise, after 37 years of marriage) that Mr LL and I both have similar tastes. It's not as if one gives in to the other, we genuinely don't have a problem when choosing colour schemes, names etc.

[angel21]

That is very fortunate lofty!

[debbz1969]

sorry red... didn't mean that to sound I was having a go. was just replying in general. I meant that I wouldn't use railroading but I don't see the harm in using my feminine charms to get my own way. Works for me anyway. x x

[redcrx]

well now you know what to look for, angel.

a man who needs someone to make all his decisions for him

[rinkins]

In a film (Big Fat Greek Wedding I think), the wife says

"the man is the head of the house, but the woman is the neck and she can turn the head any way she wants!"

I'd like to have someone with similar tastes to me, otherwise it leads to too many arguments.

Angel - how was your friend yesterday?

[redcrx]

lol debbz, i think men and women both do that on occasion

[debbz1969]

Hi Lofty.
Now, have you got similar tastes or are you an expert in getting him into your way of thinking. Don't under estimate yourself Lofty, you may have very strong powers of persuasion....


Or


You could both have the same taste, which is extremely lucky.....

[4getmenot]

thats a great saying rinkins :-)

[rinkins]

I think that's why I've always remembered it!!

[angel21]

yes that is true red, I hope I find a man who needs me to make decisions for him hehe

Rinkins - I like that phrase hehe - was lovely to see my friend last night, had a cuddle with her little one, she was gorgeous, makes me so broody - I want one, she was so good as well didn't cry at all. Got a beer for friends fiance, natural collection strawberry shower gel, thorntons chocolates and little fleecy top for baby.