I can't remember what it was like when they were small bednobs as it was a bit of a blur, but now they are all older, 31, 28 and 26, it's easy. They all live in their own houses and they all have different demands. Eldest needs me to help with the new baby and his 14 month old, daughter (28) needs me to run her to college/shopping etc, son, youngest, needs advice on how to write to tax office, deal with landlord bank etc. It's far more complex and time cinsuming than it use dot be when they would all come home from school at the same time, need feeding and then sending upstairs to do their homework, then i could at least get other things done. Now I have to make time for them individually and it isn't easy when they expect me to jump up and race off to help.
Wouldn't change it for the world.