I've asked this before

[karmgirl]

but what can I tell my boss why I need time off for counselling

[karmgirl]

I don't like people wondering and whispering about me and I'm scared to tell her. I need to tell them all today really as next appt Tues

[Im a BusyBee]

How did you get on with your counselling the other night - before your course?

[piggling]

Can't you just say you have a medical appointment? They really can't ask for details about that can they?

[karmgirl]

it was ok thanks busybee, didn't really talk about what I thought was the more important topic she just talked about my abortion and made me cry

[legendis.god]

You ned time offf for counselling .
Why lie?

If you cant admit you need counselling then it could be a hurdle to cross.

Dont be ashamed just admit and get started.
Itsca log journey , but downt get side tracked by lying or avoiding issues.

Hope it goes welll for you .

[justmetoo]

yes, say you have a doctors appointment. you dont have to say what its for, nor should they ask you

[karmgirl]

but i need about 2 hours out each week for the next 5 weeks, I'm worried she'll turn around and say your not allowed unless you tell me why or what if shes unhappy about me having that amount of time off, am I allowed to have as much time off as necessary for medicals

[ummmm]

Tell her the truth. I presume she is human...?

[funnygirl]

Tell your boss that the counselling is to overcome murderous thoughts you keep getting at work! :-)

[justmetoo]

2 hours a week is easy to make up, you could go to work earlier , stay later , you are allowed for medical reasons, but why not tell the truth.... people do understand, and you have nothing to be ashamed about.......

[karmgirl]

ok here goes

[redcrx]

you dont have to tell her why, if you want to say youre at counselling then do that and dont let them pry any further. Just tell them its private and you'd respect them not to ask if it was them that were seeing a counsellor.

[justmetoo]

good luck.......let us know how it went....x

[karmgirl]

told my boss and she was fine and understanding and said she was concerned about me. got to tell my 2 colleagues still

I was shaking is that normal

[Rosetta]

Well done, thats one hurdle out of the way.

[ummmm]

Yes it is kargirl.....It's nerves.

Well done.

[karmgirl]

Thing is what makes it difficult is that people have no idea theres anything upsetting me so much to need counselling, so it must seem really strange and it makes me worry they'll be thinking how good I am at hiding things and what else I might be hiding

[justmetoo]

ahhh, well done, you really have nothing to be ashamed about.............good luck, you will be fine...dont worry....x

[karmgirl]

feel so stupid though and feel stupid in counselling too, I wonder sometimes y I am having counselling and if I really do need it or if I'm just overreacting