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My 12 year old sister wants to runaway and live with me?

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wyatt1992 | 12:23 Mon 04th Apr 2011 | Family Life
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for you to understand why my sister is wanting to runaway you knew to know the reason for it.
my mother is very contoling and she emotional abused me and my older borther. till she kicked us out. i wasnt aloud to see or talk to my sister for 4 years because my mother wouldnt let me. but a few weeks ago i bumped in to my sister and we swiped numbers (mum dont know ) and since that time my sister has phone me up crying saying that our step father has hit her and been having a go at her for no reason and also my mother too has been giving her a hard time. my sister has told me he walks around the house with no clothes on and he walked in to the bathroom the other went my sister was geeing in the bath and he slaped her bear bum leaving her with a red mark.
my sister has asked for my to drive up to the school today and to bring her back to my home as she does not want to go back home to my mother and step father.
i am worried for her safed as i too have been emotional abused by them and went i was 14 and lived there my step father was a bully to me too. i moved out at 15 and went in to foster care. i am now 19 years old.
i am worried that if my sister goes back home that she will just runaway and i and the family will never see her again. or she will end up doing something more silly.
could someone please help me out in what i should do.
ps no mean comments please thank you for taking the time to read this
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have you spoken to anyone about this in all the time your sister has been claiming abuse?
Im not sure turning up at her school and removing her today is a very clever idea.
You'll need to get the official agencies in on this one.
Ring up your local Social Service department and have a chat with them. They will be aware of the family situation via your history.
Your sister may make things more difficult for herself if she runs away. She needs to make sure that she is listened to properly...

Best of luck.
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my sister wont go to the social in less she is all ready out of there as she is scared of them and she feels that by coming to me is the only way. if i could i'll go there and talk to my parents but if i do that then they will know that my sister and i have been in contact and they will take my sisters phone away and will start taking her and picking her up from school and they wont let her out down town anymore. i know this because my mother stopped me and my older brother from seeing my grandma and grandad (mum's parents) and went she found out that me and my brother was meeting up with her. she went off the handle and she grounded us and she made it a lot harder for us to see our grandparents. i'm just worried that my sister could lose me and then she will be wosre off because there be no way out other then running away and living on the streets and i am sure you know that the streets are no a safe place for a 12 year old to be.
You really have NO sensible option other than to contact SS.

All other scenarios will be temporary and probably deeply distressing. Talk it through with SS yourself before you get them directly involved with your sister.
Wyatt - ring Childline - 0800 1111 and explain everything you have explained here to us and ask for their advice. Its a confidential and you would'nt have to give any personal information, just tell them the facts and I am sure they will point you in the right direction.
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thanks hun i will take the in to a count
As has already been said, you must involve SS.

Presumably, until recently you had a social worker? Could you perhaps contact them, at least you would be dealing with someone you are familiar with and who knows your history.
You need to call SS for advice today! they are only ones who can tell you the best way to deal with this.
You need to protect you sister, first and foremost, but in a way that will not mean that you get into trouble
personally, I would get her from school and let SS deal with it after. Presuming you have a stable home? SS will not make a 14 year old go home if she doesn't want to and has a safe, caring environment to stay in...

I've had dealing with SS....Their involvement is essential. They don't just get involved with children 'at risk' they will give you family support. They will come and see you...not to judge, but to find out the facts. They will make recommendations and arrange any councilling that they think she might need. It all happens quickly when SS are involved.

Always remember...they are there to help and want the best for each individual.
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