Complexed Situation, Advice Needed.

[sacha.86]

Hiya, my seven year old son recently told me of indecent acts going on in front of him displayed by his Dad and his Dad's partner. Since then I have told his Dad he can only see him on public from now on. Since I changed the arrangements of access he hasn't seen him for months. He recently arranged to take him out to the cinema to which I agreed. I have found out this evening that it won't just be the two of them and that his partner will be joining them. Now I don't feel or think he will be completely safe. If I now tell his Dad he can't go, they are going to pull the jealous-x card on me. I haven't confronted his Dad about what I was told, he will deny it and potentially become quite aggressive. I've also promised my son I won't tell his father about what he disclosed to me, as I don't want his Dad becoming aggressive towards him. I think he suspects that I know and has done this on purpose to find out if I know or not, but I'm not 100%. Either way the cinema isn't the right place for them to meet amd I don't know how to cancel with out a massive hoohar. Any advice?

[sacha.86]

The courts aren't free anymore

[ummmm]

If you are being threatened and abused then go to the police.

[Mamyalynne]

This man is now sounding dangerous,get help!

[Sammy48]

He roughs him up with a baseball bat !

[Sammy48]

You need Police protection.

[EDDIE51]

Posts crossed, but YES you need to get the family court in on this.
Ask them to arrange supervised access, it looks exactly the type of situation that needs this.

[EDDIE51]

The courts are free for cases involving the safety of children!!.
You are entitled to 100% legal aid , I know this for fact! been there for my family!

[sacha.86]

I've already been to the police

[Mamyalynne]

And they said?

[ummmm]

Keep going to them then!

[EDDIE51]

Get hold of a solicitor 1st thing tomorrow and start the case!

[EDDIE51]

Police are useless for this type of situation. You must get a solicitor on this tomorrow , you have to apply to the family court for a legal arrangement to be put in place urgently.

[ummmm]

Sacha could go to a solicitors tomorrow but that's not going to help by Saturday.

How does you son feel about his dad?

[Mamyalynne]

I think Sacha all the advice we have given you tonight you will have heard a hundred times before and it takes courage I know.


But you can do it and you must for your sake and your son's.


A cruel question ,but - Do you really want your boy to grow up to be like his father?

[sacha.86]

I'm going to text him in the morning saying that I'm cancelling saturday, as I don't want access to always be up in the air, n that I want a legal decision to be made. He is now properly going to want to cut off from his son. But that's his mistake.

[Mamyalynne]

I wish you all the best in the future for you and your boy,take care.

[EDDIE51]

Go to a solicitor and then tell the Dad that you are suspending access while you are seeking legal advice. Hard I know but you have to do it for your son's sake. Believe me in a case like this lying will will rebound on you! you do not have to tell him why you are seeking advice but do get it!

[sacha.86]

His son is his guide and he feels he needs to support his Dad

[Mamyalynne]

Of course he does,sounds a lovely lad - get things sorted and who knows,things could improve for you all.

[EDDIE51]

The family courts are very good they will help the father to develop a safe secure arrangement for access to his son as well as helping you and the child.