Am I Rude?

[boona]

Today I went out for a meal with my mum and sister and my sister invited a friend from church, we were sat next to each other and got on well, we chatted together for pretty much all the meal about all sorts, when we were getting to the end of meal I noticed my sister had a face down to the ground and was being moody, when I got home my mum said it was because I chatted to her friend all through the meal and didn't really talk to her so much, personally it is not something that would have bothered me if it was the other way round, mum said I was rude. What do you think?

[boona]

Sorry to hear that gavmacp

[Gavmacp]

It doesn't bother me but it made me think what does "family" mean. Friend is female and we have been friends for nearly 30 (gosh it doesn't feel that long) years her brother is jealous of our friendship. I have 3 brothers and it never even entered my head to be jealous of their friendships.

[Psybbo]

Gav, that is unbelievable!

[DaisyNonna]

Surely your sister can talk to you whenever she or you want.
You made her friend welcome, not always possible in a family gathering.

[boona]

i was a little shocked that she was bothered by it, like I said It wouldn't have bothered me at all, if I wanted to get a word in I would of made a joke about it or said something like "hey you two, don't forget us"

[xstitcher]

Well since the other two people seem to think it was rude I guess that's your answer. You could always get together with the new lady at a later date, but I think when there are only four people involved everyone should be included.

[Mamyalynne]

In socialising we all make the odd faux pas, best not to fret but learn from it.

[boona]

Does this make her friend rude for talking to me too then

[DTCwordfan]

Jeez, I wouldn't give a toss, boona....okay, maybe you should have been more inclusive but it's a molehill, not a mountain and Gav, I agree with Psybbs....shakes head, but then two of my sisters haven't (yet) called my mater for 'Refreshment Day' (I prefer that synonym for Mothering Sunday - thanks chic).

[Jackdaw33]

I once attended a large dinner. Everyone seemed to know each other and I did not know a soul. Throughout the entire meal not a word was said to me.

[Gavmacp]

One Christmas it took us over 24 hours to fly from Norwich to Edinburgh for Christmas. At the dinner table my brother pointed out that my cutlery was touching the table, I know, I know I am disgusting and should of been taken out at that point and shot! But it made me think who is ruder the person committing the crime or the person that points out that you are committing the crime?
I'm with Queen Victoria and the finger dish!

[boona]

My mum said next time we have a family meal my sister won't invite her friend lol

[Jackdaw33]

It is called Refreshment Sunday because in the Prayer Book the gospel for today is the story of the feeding of the five thousand. Mothering Sunday comes from the epistle for the day, which speaks of Jerusalem as our heavenly mother. Traditionally, if you had given up something for Lent you were allowed to indulge on this one day.

[DTCwordfan]

Jackdaw, one of the funniest I heard involved a girlfriend of mine. Picture a formal home dinner for, yes, 24. She slipped her shoes off under the table.

The soup was served and apparently was dis-s-s-gusting. The guy on her left somehow smuggled the bowl off the table and up-ended it to replace it, ever so discreetly.

However, come the end of the meal, she went to put her shoes back on and got a 'cloop' as her foot went into a shoe of clammy, cold asparagus soup.

Nice.

[Gavmacp]

Thinking ahead don't!!!! Then go out with friend for a drink and not invite sister that would be a shooting offence!

[DTCwordfan]

and, Gav, I would have been tempted to give him two fingers, up the Jacksie too.

[boxtops]

Why she didn't say something at the time is beyond me - you are all grown women, for goodness sake.

[gness]

Ahhh....sisters who sulk are a pain in the neck, Boona....ours has kept it up for seven years now and not one of us knows why.....but to be honest...the silence is bliss.......☺

[DTCwordfan]

(actually it was jackdaw who passed on that useless info about Refreshment Sunday and its origins. My 87 year old aunt thought it was a far better expression and raised a glass of G&T to it.

[gness]

Oh, thanks, Boona.....who'd have thought my sister would help me get a best answer.....she'd spit feathers if she knew about it....☺