Daughter wont stop attempting to hurt baby sister

[lylabellablueyes]

I have a 3.5 year old and 9 month old baby daughter.

My daughte does nothing but hurt or attempt to hurt her baby sister.

I have done all the stuff I should, such as involving, praising, letting her help. I give her time on her own with me. Etc etc.

My daughter was doted on before the baby and even now she still is. Loving grandparent. Me and her dad love her and give her loads of love. She's never left out (I made sure of that)

Nothing will stop her from being aggressive tho'. She steps on the baby's feet, nips her, pushes her. Grabs her (pretending to cuddle, she's sly about it)

I've tried the naughty step, bedroom, talking at her level. All that supper nanny rubbish too. She just does it again within ten minutes. I know she'll be all jealous etc, but it doesn't stop me being worried about the baby. The poor little mite is so scared when my eldest walks in the room, it's sad to see.

I just need advice before the baby is hurt. I never leave them alone and I have baby gates, but she does it right in front of me when they're together. It's total madness. I dread getting up in a morning at the minute. :(

[sherrardk]

So pleased to hear that things are getting easier with your girls. Sometimes when we are worried about things, we don't quite get our point across in the way we wanted to. Fingers crossed that things continue to improve and you all have a lovely summer break, x

[ladybirder]

I have to say I think Lyla got her point over perfectly. Not for one moment did I think the baby was running away - she's probably not old enough. Lyla, But, you say, baby was just wary and watchful. Before you said The poor little mite is so scared when my eldest walks in the room, it's sad to see .

Wary, watchful, scared, that's what frightened me. I really hope things are better and your baby is now none of those things. I really do.

[boxtops]

Thanks for the update, lyla - and yes, I can remember when my little brother was born, I felt jealous that he and mum were at home and I was at school, away from whatever I thought was going on at home. Glad things are improving - stick with it, good luck.