bad thoughts

[24fan]

i am in my 3 year old relationship with a man i love very much and recently had a baby with. after giving birth i have gone off the love making. well physically but mentally it's all i think about but with other men. i just want to point out i would never cheat on my partner. just the other day i see someone in the street. i don't know him but that as an example i think about how gorgeous he was and other thoughts. i want these feelings and thoughts to stop but they won't. Any advice please?

[Maypole]

How are you feeling generally 24? Hows it going with the new baby?

Maybe you feel a bit trapped, or constrained at least, or the weight of the responsibility and youre having a bit of light fantasy about another life?.........

[24fan]

With the baby it's exhausting but i LOVE being a new mum. Big life changes obv, No time to self, Constantly on the go. I know that what being a mum is all about. Wish for little help some times but then get into arguements because he works during the day and I am at home all day (With baby and house work)
Sometimes it feels the more we argue the less I feel I can......

[Maypole]

I dont envy you - babies are exhausting! I stopped at one lol.

I would say that you're fantasising a bit about escaping, and attention, and of being a sexual person again. All of which is an understandable response to the demands youre facing. New parents frequently report a decimated sex drive and it takes a bit of a concerted effort on both your parts to get things going again. You can post separately to more experienced mums and dads about how to do this, and tips for more sharing of the childcare responsibilities.

Then Im sure the fantasising will die down all on its own and your attention will return to your little new family! Good luck

Maypole.