Am i the one thats way out of line with this?

[pandapopspop]

My ex was invited over with his new girlfriend to my house by my sister and her boyfriend just to chill out. I find this completely inappropriate as i wasn't told about it, i wasn't asked how i felt about it or anything. Me and my ex left things really badly when we broke up so surely this situation is just not right. My sister now is annoyed at me for saying that my ex shouldn't come round with his girlfriend...this shocks me, why can't she see how it makes me feel? Am i the one that is somehow out of line?

[Velvetee]

Does your sister live with you or do you jointly rent or own the property?

I know if it was my home and the same thing happened to me, I'd be infuriated. Is this girlfriend of your ex's a close friend of your sister? I'd definitely say your sister has behaved in a very disloyal way towards you.

[trt]

I take it from your post that you and your sister live together in the same house, if not please tell us how she can invite your ex to your house?

[pandapopspop]

Yeah me and my sister live together with our parents (there on hols atm).
And i think my sister has only known my ex's new gf for a few weeks. So there not close at all.

[Velvetee]

Are you both teenagers or older?

[tamborine]

No....your right not to want your ex in your home - change the locks & keep them all out.

[trt]

Has your sister got an ex you could invite over for a night, when she is in with her present b/f?

Worth a try lol.

[pandapopspop]

were both 20.
I feel as tho im being ganged upon tho by the four of them, i really dont get it...

[jno]

your sister doesn't seem to have a lot of respect for your feelings, but you're entitled to them.

[Velvetee]

Well seems your sister lacks the ability and maturity to empathise with you. All you can do is wait until your parents get back and explain that you feel uncomfortable with your ex and his new girlfriend coming to the house, not sure what else you can do.

[tamborine]

I could send the bikers round to pretend to be your boyfriends.....for a 'round'.

[pandapopspop]

really thanks to everyone thats helped here, it seems clear that im not the one thats being rude, its beyond me that my "sister" cant see it. I dont even mind that my ex is seeing someone else, its just the line has been crossed i think wen he is invited to my house with her :/

[brenda]

Why be there at all for this event , arrange to go out and do something you like..Leave them to it .If they are still there when you come back,say at night , have a shower , pour a drink and get off to bed with your headphones on.You don't need to play any part in this set up if you don't want to .
You have a righty to be annoyed ,so just don't be there.
Problem solved.

[_josie_]

My sister did this to me after i dumped my boyfriend. Her and her boyfriend invited HIM round coz they felt sorry for him!!! I remember getting in from college and I could hear my ex's voice and my sister, her boyfriend and my ex were in her room listening to music. I was livid and asked what the h3ll he was doing here...'well he's my friend now' was the lame response i got. I went round a mate's house in the end but when i got home and the boys had gone i had a huge row with my sister which lasted about a week. I still don't think she thinks she did anything wrong now and this all happened about 7 years ago!!

[ummmm]

Your sister's a bitch. Are you prettier by any chance?

[pandapopspop]

In reply to 'brenda' - i did eventually go out after i realised what was going on but i didnt no anything at all about my ex coming until he was already through the door!

'josie' - i asked the same thing to my sister when they all left and i just got "its my house too". She thinks im making her the baddie and refuses to speak to me now! Its been four days now since she's been giving me the silent treatment and i know its going to go on for longer.